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Living Sober is a community website designed to support people who wish to free themselves from the clutches of alcohol. Living Sober is not for profit, nor is it concerned with alcohol reform or public policy. It is about self-education and empowerment, based firmly around the concept of community.

As a non-member you have access to lots of inspiring material inside the ‘Sober Toolbox’ and on the blog pages. These areas are updating constantly and you are welcome to add comments  anonymously providing you keep with the site’s stated ethos of tolerance, understanding and kindness. As a non-member you can also view the ‘Faces of Recovery’ gallery, use the ‘Sober Calculator’ and ‘Money Saved Calculator’, peruse our ‘Drink of the Week’ archives, and absorb the great information inside the ‘Getting Help’ section.

If you register as a member (giving yourself an anonymous profile if you like) you gain access to the ‘Members Feed’ which is our powerful rolling communication space. This is a very warm, supportive, and encouraging space where members post regular updates, sharing their daily (sometimes hourly!) struggles and triumphs as they adjust to living alcohol free. You can use the ‘Members Feed’ to gain instant support – updates are often replied to within minutes.

If you have any questions about Living Sober or problems to report please email [email protected]

About Mrs D.

Mrs D is the name Lotta Dann gave herself when she began anonymously blogging her way sober. Lotta Dann is a wife, mother, journalist, writer, and sober alcoholic. Lotta’s blog ‘Mrs D Is Going Without’ began in late 2011 as a series of private letters hidden in a corner of the internet, but is now a hugely popular site that receives thousands of visitors every day. Lotta discovered in blogging for herself that openly and honestly writing about her addiction was a hugely powerful tool. Furthermore, the community of support that built up around her blog became hugely beneficial to her recovery process. Lotta’s best-selling memoir ‘Mrs D Is Going Without’ describes her drinking problem, charts her route to sobriety and reveals how vital the online blogging community became. The Living Sober website is the next natural progression for Lotta, building on the concept of online community support that she relishes so much in her recovery.

The TV documentary on Lotta where she first went public with her drinking problem is available to view here (via TVNZ’s website).

An in-depth interview Radio New Zealand’s Kim Hill did with Lotta is available to listen to here (RNZ), and another one here with Radio Live’s Duncan Garner.

Recovery podcast ‘The Bubble Hour’ did a one-hour feature with Lotta here.

About the partners

Living Sober has the backing and support of the premier agencies working in the field of addiction in New Zealand; The NZ Drug Foundation, the Health Promotion Agency and Matua Raki.

The NZ Drug Foundation:

For over 20 years the NZ Drug Foundation has been working to prevent and reduce the immense social, health and economic harms caused by drugs in our communities. They are at the forefront of major alcohol and other drug policy debates, advocating strongly for policies and practices based on the best evidence available.

The Health Promotion Agency:

The HPA is a Crown entity that leads and delivers programmes that: promote health, wellbeing and healthy lifestyles, prevent disease, illness and injury, and reduce personal, social and economic harm. The HPA provides advice and research on alcohol issues, aims to prevent and reduce alcohol related harm, and works to inspire New Zealanders to make better decisions about drinking alcohol.

Matua Raḵi:

Matua Raḵi is the National Addiction Workforce Development Centre, focussed on helping New Zealand’s addiction workforce deliver welcoming, hopeful and effective services. Matua Raḵi works on addiction solutions such as policy development, training programs, boosting sector relationships and networking, and resource and competency development.