I have a sneaky suspicion that there are people who visit Living Sober to read blogs and look in the Sober Toolbox.. but don’t ever go inside the Community Area. A few people have commented lately that they’ve been coming to the site for a while but have only just discovered the Members Feed – and this is a total bummer!
The ‘Members Feed’ is inside the ‘Community Area’ and it is the page on this site where we mostly hang out. It’s a scrolling feed where we all post regular updates on what is happening in our day-to-day lives.
Our trials and triumphs as we attempt to move sober around this booze-soaked world of ours.
The books and blogs we are reading and documentaries we are watching.
How we are dealing with our loved ones drinking or talking to our friends about our recovery.
The material shared inside that space is honest, gritty, warm, kind, real, supportive and non-judgemental. At times it can be inspiring, heart-warming, heart-breaking, sad, uplifting and informative. But it is always real and it is always kind.
It really is a no-brainer. If you want to take your online recovery experience to the next level get yourself in there! You do so by registering to join – putting in your email address (which no-one will see) and choosing any username you like. You can hide your true identity – that is totally fine – and it won’t stop you making genuine connections with other members.
If you have any problems registering send me an email to [email protected] and I’ll help you get in.
Love, Mrs D xxx
Oops that was meant to be a reply to Michelle.
I’ve read both books by getting them from the library
Hammer123..thank you for asking ..no was in a better spot rereading last Sundays post…please keep posting your sobriety..it is encouraging. I also found a subreddit group that is supportive and informative..have you tried? Wish me luck on my new day 1..TY!
Sorry to hear about the set back, but glad your getting back to day 1 I hear that lots of people need more than one day one to get the job done! I will check out the Reddit Group, thanks for the tip! I am now on day 39 and like being sober and not having to manage my drinking. I have told a few more people that I am not drinking and they are very supportive! They are all surprised and think I am just taking a break. None of them thought I had a problem but I was just good ar hiding it! Stay strong and stay focused on the positives of living a sober life! You are not giving anything up you are getting your life back!
Does anyone have Mrs D book i could borrow to read pls.
I got mine from Amazon the other day on my computer/ Kindle. Was about $10.
thank you Hammer123..glad you stayed strong on your birthday….today is tough for wanting that feeling that beer gives me ..it sunny and hot and lazy Sunday afternoon in front of me which i would usually be drinking by now and well on my way to doing nothing…lol..so instead i am truly enjoying the day and trying to do something… anything is better than nothing. I eating watermelon for the sweet tooth and drinking mineral water. Thank you for your encouragement and looking forward to where you are at!
30 days of sobriety today! Very motivated to make it to 60 days and beyond, The first week was difficult but I feel like I am gaining traction! Keep the sunny side up!
I am on day 5..good for you. Hammer123!
Honeybee how has your last week gone? I hope everything is ok and you are seeing and feeling some progress!
Thanks for the encouragement Honeybee! Stay strong, the fist couple of weeks are the toughest! I just made it through my 55th Birthday weekend without a drink! My fist couple of weeks I ate a lot of chocolate to satisfy that sugar craving that alcohol used to supply! I didn’t lose any weight the first couple of weeks but now I am down 6 lbs. When we quit alcohol we are not giving up something we are getting our health back and so many other opportunities!!
Anonymous keep your resolve strong! We can do this thing and enjoy this life we have been given!
Hi,
It’s my second day Lol!! I’m feeling really positive and motivated, I just wanted to connect with others in my situation for support and mutual guidance.
today is my 4th day ..are you still in anonymous? 4 days and 40 bucks saved:)
Hiya, this is day 1 for me too. I fell off the wagon and keep falling. It really pisses me off. Had a big night Saturday night didn’t do anything shameful (well at least I don’t think). Anyway I am here to let you know that I am here along with everyone else to support our journey no matter what.
I need help in staying positive and not letting the voice in my head say it’s ok to drink. Plus when I gave up I had amazing sleep and the thought of no hangover is also amazing.
Day one today! Reading other people’s stories really helps me, hoping to stay focussed and not slip up. Last night was a massive night out with work mates and ended with me not in my own bed… I am feeling embarrassed and ashamed today, I let myself get into that state and did not try to control the outcome. So anyway, to ensure something positive comes out of this I have joined this community and hope to keep watching my sober days climb up, and supporting everyone else on their journeys
Day 1, this time I have to beat this
I’m day 1 too!! Have to succeed this time. We can do it!
Im with you my friend, day 2,I managed to get through yesterday without a drink, hope you are doing well.
How long before I get a good nites sleep. I am now day 6.
Yes! You are not alone. I want to be consumed by other thoughts as well. So tired and bored with alcohol. Have loved waking up hangover free the past few days. Have tried to quit so many times. It’s day 4 again, but all I have to do is get through today. Thank you Ms. Nomoreguilt!
Hang in there. Been sober for a while now. Still have times when I could be tempted, how ever being involved in cycling and getting fit is more than enough motivation not to go back to alcohol as a prop.
So pleased I found this site. Day one for me after so many failed attempts over the past few years I have lost count. The comfort of knowing I’m not alone in my feelings of shame, guilt, failure, hopelessness, loneliness give me so much hope. Alcohol is such a powerful temptation that it consumes my thoughts daily, making me feel I’m going mad. Reading about others who are in their 50′s and have finally managed to remain sober gives me a reason to give it another go. I want to live life to the full and I know that being sober is the only way I will achieve this. Day 1….
Someone else in their 50s! I am 57. My first drink was 48 years ago – hence my user name! Downhill ever since.
OMG this is me….50 plus, only on day one today, but feeling positive. I feel so ashamed, and now I have finally found a place where I can share my days with like minded people travelling the not so lonely road now…..
It is worth it for sure. Keep thinking of the positive elements to being sober . Jason Vale book is very good
Ellie, I am having the same problem. I have emailed Mrs. D about it. I keep getting the same error message when I click on the link they sent me to join the community.
It’s all good. Thank you, Mrs. D. x
This quest for sobriety is a long time coming. I say that because I have questioned my relationship with alcohol and ignored the answers. I would describe myself as a weekend binger filled with guilt, regret and promises. Promises to only have one more, which is never enough. I secretly monitor the pours and how much is left. I feel different right now as I have discovered this online community full of people with similar stories. Thank you. I am on day 10, but actually count one weekend.
I also relapsed last night after work!!! Pleased to hear I am only human. My Birthday next week, I just know I will be given a bottle of wine from someone, even though I do stress no, no I don’t need Wine!!
I will start again, I have also been a ‘lurker’ here for a very long time and decided last week to get into it and join officially. So pleased I have.
Im new here too amd struggling to keep going past day 1. Goodluck to both of us! Good on you for joining!
so pleased you have too. good on you
Ive tried a dozen times to get on the community chat but i put all my details in and just comes up error. Ive emailed but never had a reply. X
Thankyou its sorted now. X
Hi I have emailed you back twice.. maybe check your spam folder ? x
Thanks sorted now. X
The Community Area has been my lifeline to making the difference for me this time. Day 211
Wow.. awesome!
Well done x
I tried to become a member, but needed to type in a code to prove I was not a robot. There were no letters to type in. I was sent another sign in on email to type in letters that were not there. So I have not been able to join the members site.
If you’re on a computer, there should be a set of pictures below the robot question. Just click on those pics that show whatever the instructions ask if you see. After that, you should get a verification. If not, email Mrs D [[email protected]] .
On the left of this page, there was a question addressed to me (not sure from who) asking if I’m in the Members Feed. I (think) I joined yesterday, was having problems accessing the feed and got help from [email protected].
you probably
just need to check the box
I’m thankful for this site on day 2 but I keep on trying
Day 1 again and Im terrified of letting myself down again! Thanks all for being here.
Day 5 for me. Last time I made 43 days. That was a record for me. Ive been on this ride for 19 years, maybe longer. I don’t get hangovers anymore. I think I would prefer that to this overwhelming guilt and self .hate. But Im never going to stop trying. I found this site accidently, and it helps me a lot to know Im not alone.
Hi I to have been on this ride for 13 years day 2 for me again.. more positive this time.. hope you get on well.. stay strong
Day 1 again…
Same. Can’t believe I only lasted 3 days… it was such a stupid thing to have that one glass of wine that led to me finishing the whole bottle yet again. My “excuse” was that i could not bear my partner’s heavy drinking, currently made worse by his friend visiting, while sober. Now having yet another guilt-ridden sleepless night as a result, which means that I will be a grumpy git in a few hours and of little use to anyone. So fed up with this cycle…
Me too. We can do it, so fed up feeling hung over and thought of getting up..I remember feeling good on alcohol free periods..
I’m a long-time lurker Mrs D and have been visiting your Living Sober blog since I got sober almost 23 months ago. Hand to my heart I couldn’t have done it without the sober community.. thank you Mrs D, Ainsobriety, Mark Goodson, Paul, Mary Kay, Annie.. had no idea I was going to come out the closet tonight, have really surprised myself!
Hi I’m a lurker as well but even less so over last few.months as my phone was on it’s last legs. Anyway back from social isolation and have decided to contribute a bit more even though I always worry what people will think. I started just before you on the 1st Feb 15. This site and soberistas have been my life line. Lets start liking less. X
Lurking
Congratulations! It would be a dream if I could make it that far
For me it is 6 days usually post relationship split it is 2 only but I can stop at one bottle now. Any progress is good progress dont beat yourself up
Cads is helpful and family mental health works
9 days and starting to weaken….as usual
Stay strong x change that thought
9 days and starting to weaken….as usual
Even if you have to start again a thousand times, don’t give up. Eventually, one of them will stick.
Ha..from ages 37 to 59..many, many times said would stop. But for some reason a no drink challenge seems to work for me. Closing in on the four month Mark I set for myself. Have decided to make this permanent as it feels so good.
I watched your tv interview when you admitted to alcoholism and realized I was getting into that habit. You gave me the courage to give up.
I am sure my husband is an alcoholic but he will deny it.
I am wondering where I can get support to help him.
Mrs T
CADS (community alcohol and drugs service) are a useful place. They dont promote abstinence, just safe use. They have friends and family support meetings, group and one on one work. They also have loads of pamphlets and info that might mysteriously find itself to your kitchen bench!!!?? Good luck it’s hard to be worried about someone you love
Thanks Mrs D
Just 7 days in, so looking to get the best out of this site.
very helpful indeed.