Are you in the Members Feed?

Sunday 12 Feb, 2017, 5:32pm by Mrs D 88 comments

I have a sneaky suspicion that there are people who visit Living Sober to read blogs and look in the Sober Toolbox.. but don’t ever go inside the Community Area. A few people have commented lately that they’ve been coming to the site for a while but have only just discovered the Members Feed – and this is a total bummer!

The ‘Members Feed’ is inside the ‘Community Area’ and it is the page on this site where we mostly hang out. It’s a scrolling feed where we all post regular updates on what is happening in our day-to-day lives.

Our trials and triumphs as we attempt to move sober around this  booze-soaked world of ours.

The books and blogs we are reading and documentaries we are watching.

How we are dealing with our loved ones drinking or talking to our friends about our recovery.

The material shared inside that space is honest, gritty, warm, kind, real, supportive and non-judgemental. At times it can be inspiring, heart-warming, heart-breaking, sad, uplifting and informative. But it is always real and it is always kind.

It really is a no-brainer. If you want to take your online recovery experience to the next level get yourself in there! You do so by registering to join – putting in your email address (which no-one will see) and choosing any username you like. You can hide your true identity – that is totally fine – and it won’t stop you making genuine connections with other members.

If you have any problems registering send me an email to [email protected] and I’ll help you get in.

Love, Mrs D xxx

88 comments

  1. Thank you Hammer123… i am very proud of you 100 days is pretty dang amazing! I can not even imagine..the only time i have gone 100 days without drinking is when i am pregnant.. now i seem to get the mojo and go a few days then feel great and somehow feel that beer would increase that feeling of feeling good….it sucks i know you understand….i work at a University and off all summer that has not helped ….thank God i go back in a few weeks …always that illusive way out which never works… i did listen to pod casts from Annie Grace This Naked Mind….not my cup of tea……can you share any advice? I love Belle ..she has a 100 day challenge and dude you would be getting like a million dollars today ha….but a million dollars can never compare to being sober..Congratulations and i pray you keep going…. you are a inspiration to us struggling and Thank you!

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  2. Weekend 5 of no drinking. Feeling good, keeping occupied and remembering to take time just to relax. No hangovers for almost 6 weeks. Grateful

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  3. Hi, Mrs D. I’m very thankful to have found this site. It’s fabulous, and it reminds me so much of Soberistas. However, the first thing I noticed was that the web design looks a bit cranky. It took me a while to figure out, for instance, how to log in and how to get to my earlier posts! I guess the surfing experience would very much be enhanced after a much-needed revamp. xoxo

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    1. Shoutout to @honeybee, just wanted to let you know I am still going AF @ 100 days! I am in the community area everyday if you want to get in touch. I wanted to thank you for all your support in those 1st couple of months. Be well!

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  4. reddit has a lot of groups for those not drinking or trying not to drink..has daily reinforcement from encouragement if you are looking for continuous support.

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  5. day 1…again. out of town for work. very anxious about the post-work invite for dinner/drinks. I know me…I’ve been here before. Too many times. Been trying to quit for good for years. Hoping nobody asks. I want to just come back to hotel room and eat, read, sleep.

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  6. I’m on my second, second day…if that makes sense. Haven’t made it past this point, yet. I’ve got to do something. Thinking of having a game night – anything to keep busy…maybe I’ll make it to day 3 this time.

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  7. Thanks for the encouragement honeybee! I did end up having a great day 60. I took some time yesterday to sit in my sadness and realized I am just trying to do too much in one day and when everything didn’t get done it brought on this feeling of failure! I just have to be kinder to myself! Thanks again your kind words and support! Hope everything is good on your end? Go easy my friend!

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  8. I will pray for you today Hammer123! I read once that: Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. I hope you have a blessed day 6o! (it is probably good to look at your feelings now that you are not escaping them with booze anymore. I love this line from a beautiful song.. “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in. ” Like someone once encouraged me…keep the sunny side up!

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  9. 60 days sober today! I thought I would be super pumped about this achievement but the past 4 to 5 days I have been battling from depression! This maybe why I started drinking in the first place! I’m definitely not going to drink today and I am certain that I can make it to 90 days. I think I need to slow down and figure out what’s going on with my feelings and why things are so messy! If anyone has any advice or encouragement I sure could use it today!

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  10. So glad to here you are starting again! I have quit drinking for a year before and it was horrible! I just wanted to see if I could do it and white knuckled the whole year, I did this strictly on will power. This time is different I want to quit and enjoy the last half of my life! This 57 days has been much easier than the last time and a lot easier than quitting smoking! I really hope you find the strength and the desire to quit, I know it will improve your life and you deserve that even if you don’t see it yet! Your life has value and you have really helped me get to this point in my sobriety! Let your awesomeness shine through!

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  11. 54 days is amazing! And I see you (and wife) are reaping the benefits of no booze. I wish i could stay strong as you have…i feel fantastic when i do not drink than sabotage it having a few which turns out to be several and many wasted hours of doing nothing. Good health is a blessing so many people do not have and here i am purposely destroying mine with poison, UGH! Well thanks for thinking of me…i was on another day 1 yesterday so your words are quite encouraging here on day 2. Thank you! I like ‘keep the sunny side up”:)

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  12. honeybee, I haven’t heard from you for a while, I hope all is well with you and your sobriety? If not you can always start again, it is definitely worth it! I am on day 54 and had a discussion with my friends and wife over lunch about maybe trying to manage my drinking even though I know in my heart I can’t. Later that night my wife explained too me that I am a much nicer and a more understanding person when I don’t drink! I have to agree and besides a few moments of weakness every week I don’t really miss the drinking! I definitely like waking up sober and without a hangover and the best part is that I have lost 10 pounds and feel better physically and mentally! I have more confidence in myself and I have been watching my diet and using my old drinking time to go for walks about 50 – 60 miles per week! It’s still early days but I know I can do this and if I can everyone can! Keep the sunny side up!

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  13. Hammer123..thank you for asking ..no was in a better spot rereading last Sundays post…please keep posting your sobriety..it is encouraging. I also found a subreddit group that is supportive and informative..have you tried? Wish me luck on my new day 1..TY!

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    1. Sorry to hear about the set back, but glad your getting back to day 1 I hear that lots of people need more than one day one to get the job done! I will check out the Reddit Group, thanks for the tip! I am now on day 39 and like being sober and not having to manage my drinking. I have told a few more people that I am not drinking and they are very supportive! They are all surprised and think I am just taking a break. None of them thought I had a problem but I was just good ar hiding it! Stay strong and stay focused on the positives of living a sober life! You are not giving anything up you are getting your life back!

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  14. thank you Hammer123..glad you stayed strong on your birthday….today is tough for wanting that feeling that beer gives me ..it sunny and hot and lazy Sunday afternoon in front of me which i would usually be drinking by now and well on my way to doing nothing…lol..so instead i am truly enjoying the day and trying to do something… anything is better than nothing. I eating watermelon for the sweet tooth and drinking mineral water. Thank you for your encouragement and looking forward to where you are at!

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  15. 30 days of sobriety today! Very motivated to make it to 60 days and beyond, The first week was difficult but I feel like I am gaining traction! Keep the sunny side up!

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      1. Honeybee how has your last week gone? I hope everything is ok and you are seeing and feeling some progress!

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      2. Thanks for the encouragement Honeybee! Stay strong, the fist couple of weeks are the toughest! I just made it through my 55th Birthday weekend without a drink! My fist couple of weeks I ate a lot of chocolate to satisfy that sugar craving that alcohol used to supply! I didn’t lose any weight the first couple of weeks but now I am down 6 lbs. When we quit alcohol we are not giving up something we are getting our health back and so many other opportunities!!

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  16. Hi,
    It’s my second day Lol!! I’m feeling really positive and motivated, I just wanted to connect with others in my situation for support and mutual guidance.

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  17. Hiya, this is day 1 for me too. I fell off the wagon and keep falling. It really pisses me off. Had a big night Saturday night didn’t do anything shameful (well at least I don’t think). Anyway I am here to let you know that I am here along with everyone else to support our journey no matter what.

    I need help in staying positive and not letting the voice in my head say it’s ok to drink. Plus when I gave up I had amazing sleep and the thought of no hangover is also amazing.

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  18. Day one today! Reading other people’s stories really helps me, hoping to stay focussed and not slip up. Last night was a massive night out with work mates and ended with me not in my own bed… I am feeling embarrassed and ashamed today, I let myself get into that state and did not try to control the outcome. So anyway, to ensure something positive comes out of this I have joined this community and hope to keep watching my sober days climb up, and supporting everyone else on their journeys

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  19. Yes! You are not alone. I want to be consumed by other thoughts as well. So tired and bored with alcohol. Have loved waking up hangover free the past few days. Have tried to quit so many times. It’s day 4 again, but all I have to do is get through today. Thank you Ms. Nomoreguilt!

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    1. Hang in there. Been sober for a while now. Still have times when I could be tempted, how ever being involved in cycling and getting fit is more than enough motivation not to go back to alcohol as a prop.

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  20. So pleased I found this site. Day one for me after so many failed attempts over the past few years I have lost count. The comfort of knowing I’m not alone in my feelings of shame, guilt, failure, hopelessness, loneliness give me so much hope. Alcohol is such a powerful temptation that it consumes my thoughts daily, making me feel I’m going mad. Reading about others who are in their 50′s and have finally managed to remain sober gives me a reason to give it another go. I want to live life to the full and I know that being sober is the only way I will achieve this. Day 1….

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      1. Eeek! I am 66 yrs old and starting again. Feeling like one of the unfortunate people who may never make it! I have to .

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      2. I get it carol48, I am 60 and still having day 1s but never give up and try to keep the shitty committee in your head quiet by breathing instead. Hope this helps.

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    1. OMG this is me….50 plus, only on day one today, but feeling positive. I feel so ashamed, and now I have finally found a place where I can share my days with like minded people travelling the not so lonely road now…..

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  21. Ellie, I am having the same problem. I have emailed Mrs. D about it. I keep getting the same error message when I click on the link they sent me to join the community.

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