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Getting through wine o’clock

July 24, 2014 781 comments

Late in the afternoon is often the hardest time. How do you get through the witching hours without drinking?

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  1. Just got through day 27 and feel like Day 30 will be a bit of a mile stone, even though tomorrow will be 4 weeks. I have gone through alot of things that I thought would be more difficult, having friends over for a hockey game, going to the legion, going to a party, telling our best couple friends and my golf partner! I am waiting until I get deeper into my sobriety before I let others know! I have found fruit smoothies, non-alcohlic beer and flavoured water help around the times I would usually have a scotch, beer or wine, also this site and the Recovery Elevator help me get through the tough moments, knowing that all my feelings and behaviours are experienced by many more people than just myself! Just wondering if there is somewhere else i can post these types of comments to start a different kind of conversation involving my recovery?
    Thanks for any advice you can offer! Hammer

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  2. I love kombucha – I pour it in a wine glass – and I think the ritual of it still “relaxes” me – but no night sweats and no fog in the morning. Make a pretty fruit infused water and put in a wine glass or flute.

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  3. I love kombucha – I pour it down n a wine glass – and I think the ritual of it still “relaxes” me – but no night sweats and no fog in the morning. Make a pretty fruit infused water and put in a wine glass or flute.

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  4. It’s not down the drain . I think of it as a bucket. It’s still an accomplishment. And it’s historical. So – Now I need a new bucket. My last bucket contained 15 days and a calculated $224 saved by not drinking wine. That’s like 20 whole bottles. (I drink cheap red wine) Every step towards your personal goal is a good thing, I’ve been using The NoMo app – to track my “buckets”. Who knows, maybe eventually I’ll need a “swimming pool”.

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  5. Everything from just going to bed, to having a sparkling non alcoholic drink.

    Do something that you wouldn’t normally drink during, go to the gym, go for a walk. Go to a move. Eat popcorn instead…..

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  6. What’s important is that you are starting over again and that’s 4 weeks that your body had w/out drinking. We have to keep trying and Not give up on ourselves.

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  7. I have no problem with alcohol when I’m with people when I’m out for an event but when I’m home alone I drink too much and it’s gotten to be a habit so a little voice says well it’s OK go ahead and I know it’s not OK but I have I need to deal with the problem can you help me

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  8. Just joined today. Hoping this site can be one more tool in my tool belt. I’m so tired of fighting this disease alone. Today is my first day sober for about the 100th time it feels like. I know this post is not on topic. I just don’t know where to begin. Thank you

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  9. “Anonymous” Posts

    I understand wanting to post anonymously. My problem is that when I respond to “anonymous” I do not know if it is the same person or a different person.
    Is there anyway that “anonymous” can indicate that they have made a previous post or if it the first time Otherwise, any response I make is not going to make sense. I want to help and not make things more difficult than they are.

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  10. I caved over the weekend and drank 3 bottles of wine. That wine o’clock got to me. Can’t blame anyone but myself. I’m so pissed at myself for caving. Almost 4 weeks without 1 drink and I cave. Now I have to start all over again.

    I bloody hate myself for it, I really do. All my hard work gone down the drain. Never mind head up, shoulders back and start again. Easy said then done. I know how hard it was for me in the first 3 days.

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    1. Dear Anonymous

      Please don’t despair. The fact that you came back to the community to share what happened to you shows what a brave person you truly are.

      I don’t think that there is anyone in this community who has not hit the wagon after swearing off drink. I once went for over two years being sober, and then went on a binge that just went on and on.

      So don’t give up. Your hard work has not gone the drain. It has taught you valuable lessons. My suggestion is that you keep away from drinking parties for the time being. Make an excuse for staying away but best not to say that it is because you are not drinking because that will result in pressure and sometimes painful mockery.
      Come to this community. Read the blogs, the community area and share your story. We can’t walk this path alone. We need each other. Kia kaha!

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  11. Day 12 I’m feeling awful… Sad lonley angry deprived.. alone.. scared I’m going out tonight on works drinks and I’m not drinking .. I don’t want to drink but I don’t not want to drink

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    1. Sorry, I just saw your post.
      How did it go? Whatever happened, please don’t give up.
      When you are feeling lonely ,sad, angry come to this site, and visit the community area.

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  12. Hi all, I have an odd case on hand. I’m 17 which seems like a ridiculous age to be on a living sober forum but I’d appreciate if you hear me out before jumping to calling me stupid. So around 2 years ago I quit smoking weed, I would only smoke on a night time and it was purely to fall straight to sleep as I have had issues getting to sleep throughout my life, this went on for a good 8 months straight and I’d forgot what falling
    asleep sober felt like. So inevitably my parents caught me, drug tests etc so I drank my mums gin every night to sleep as I couldn’t bare going to bed sober. This has continued for the last 2 years however I graduated to whiskey around a year ago and currently I drink around 1/3 to 1/2 of a bottle of Aldi’s own Clarke’s bourbon (only cheap whiskey I can drink but can’t afford decent bourbon) a night to comfortably sleep and as I’m so young I seldom get a hangover. Recently my parents and girlfriend have expressed concerns at my collection of empty bottles, alongside that although the bottles are only £12 each cost is becoming a large issue with the majority of my wage going on it. However besides that there aren’t any other catches, I’m fully aware of how much it must be harming me but as I am with smoking cigarettes I just can’t seem to grasp that and take the “it’ll never happen to me” approach to alcohol related disease. The catch is I don’t drink through the day or in the morning as an alcoholic is usually protrayed, however as soon as the prospect of sleep/tiredness crosses my mind i instantly associate it with drinking. I’ve realised I have a problem and have been trying to not drink on weekdays with mediocre success, I went 3 days and just couldn’t refuse a drink hence why I’m here typing this. I don’t expect a magical cure, if anything this is simply venting and if you’ve got this far thanks for reading, apologies for the colossal post.

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    1. One more thing in addition to my earlier reply – do login to the community area. It took me a couple of weeks after I joined before I found it. You will discover so many warriors walking the path with you.

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    2. I believe that you have a guardian angel who brought you to this site. I know that mine did. I could not have survived this far without the support from reading what others in community post. As Tom4500 says, don’t try it alone. And yes, there is a magical cure for you but it needs, hard work, perseverance, trust in yourself, and the support of this community. Do reach out to us when you need help. May the Force be with you.

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    3. The amount that you drink each night is likely to increase, until you decide to stop drinking completely, or you become life – threateningly ill. I think that you know what you have to do. The upside is, there are so many promising years ahead of you, if you’re tough enough to stop drinking. But don’t try it alone. Allow others to help you. Continue to explore avenues that have been successful for others. There is a magical cure for you, you just have to discover what it is.

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  13. Day 10 today. This morning I’m watching an episode on addiction on The Drs. tv show. Good way to begin the day! The morning news reported that my county in conjunction with “Most teens don’t” program is placing a green sticker on every alcohol product in every store in the county. Wow, what a huge undertaking. And a great reminder to every alcoholic who goes into that store. I have to go grocery shopping today and walk right by the alcohol aisle. It must be God answering my plea for help to just stay sober today. One day at a time! I am grateful for this and all of you.

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  14. Today is May 1 2018 want to stop drinking wine usually drink 3 glasses white per night nasty habit I come from alcohol genes want to quit I think it causes terrible morning anxiety no other alcohol problem is I’m meeting Girlfriendat Beach (husband getaway LOL) what should I do should I try just one fancy Beach drink a day I know I can quit wine I’ve gone 45-50 days several times HELP if anyone can I just walked which takes away some anxiety I also have Xanax but don’t like to depend on it I also think wine robs me of precious sleep I work 3 days a week I am in my 60’s and a little person Thanks in advance

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    1. Can-berry and soda water with lime works for me at times. Letting them know your not going to drink on this trip and need support : )
      Hugs, have a fun trip you can do it!!

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  15. I am on day 8 and through my first weekend. :) My thoughts were similar to many comments in blogs which I’ve read. “Surf the cravings”, “why feel like crap in the morning for a couple of hours of buzz?”, “one minute at a time”, “this too shall pass”, “do something different”. So I am doing all these things to get through the usual happy hour time. I was worried about a cool, refreshing drink during the summer and found that tonic/cranberry juice is tart and sweet and refreshing. I pour a big glass of that over ice in a fancy glass and that seems to be satisfying my desire for something cold since I don’t drink pop but like the bite of alcohol. I make sure I eat early. I changed up my weekend by planning every minute of Friday night at home. Saturday I went out, but to church and then visiting non-drinking friends. Sunday, I picked up dinner right by our friendly liquor store and visited my mom. Now I know what to do every day of the week to stay sober. I just have to keep up the practice-and when that voice pops up to say “it’s the weekend, you deserve a reward”, I tell it “what kind of reward is a hangover?”. Icecream is better!

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  16. Hi Anonymous, I’m with you. On the 28th I had more than my usual bottle of wine. Me, my Husband and another couple shot back a bottle of birthday Tequila (hubbys birhday) I passed out at 7.30pm and woke up 12 hours later hazy but but not too bad. My husband then told me the the couple we were drinking with got in an argument and he hit her. They are a solid couple, he’s a fun guy with no anger that I’ve seen. It really hit home (sorry the pun) that drinking is affecting us all eventually and it’s only a matter of time. I don’t want rock bottom so I’m taking action today to say enough is enough. Just the action of writing this post helps put into focus my WHY. I’ve never done this before either (posting I mean) I’ve wanted and thought I should give up drinking but end up talking myself back into it saying I can have 1 glass a night which never lasts. Drinking is ingrained and woven into all social events so this will be hard. Stay strong anonymous, it will be worth it in the long run!

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  17. I find it hard not to drink on weekends. But since I cut back to no more than five drinks a week, it seems a bit easier to quit on the weekends. The longest I have quit drinking wine is a month

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  18. Today was day 11 and the first time that I felt like I wanted to drink and smoke. If any of you are familiar, the conversation in my head was something to the effect of since I didn’t have any withdrawal symptoms I’m not really an alcoholic and really what harm would one cig be? Really had to distract myself with a bad movie and hot herbal tea and had a long conversation with myself about how if I wasn’t an alcoholic why am I 30 lbs overweight, bloated and hungover every day and reminded myself that my blood pressure was the highest it has ever been at the dentist’s office 3 weeks ago. Once I got through the first 15 minutes and settled myself down I was okay. I just don’t want to piss away the 11 days I have achieved this far and I don’t want to have to start again. My stubborn streak may have harmed me in the past but it is definitely helping with staying sober.

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  19. Hello All. Day 1. Again. I recently read Mrs D is Going Without and it felt familiar, which lead me here. I’ve never joined an online group before. I come from a big drinking background. I work at a job I really like, I am happily married and also happily down a bottle of wine a night, sometimes more and occassionally less. I recently had 6 weeks not drinking and want to turn that into the rest of my life. So, to keep me on track, (and it would appear I need something to help with that because I have had numerous patches of not drinking – ranging from weeks to 1.5 years) I am hoping if I go ‘public’ here I can keep myself accountable and also hopefully share the whole non-drinking trip with others who are in the same boat. I am so tired of constantly doing battle with myself over drinking. I am tired of the energy and time and space it takes up in my life and my mind, and the effect it has on my body. For me, it seems to be easier to just not start. So, day 1 plan – join this forum, read some blogs, and be prepared to weather the couple of hours in the evening that are the hard ones for me. And be prepared to check in here again tomorrow…and able to say ‘Day 1 was a success’.

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  20. I can relate to many of you comments. I start off the day telling myself I won’t drink wine today and then by 5pm I’m craving ‘a glass’. It’s the period from 5pm to 7pm that I find the hardest. I like to drink three glasses during this period while I prep, serve and clean up dinner. If I can get through those hours without wine I feel like I have achieved a personal victory ! My partner absolutely hates me drinking and is very vocal about his feelings on the matter. Instead of considering this a reason to stop I just hide my behaviour from him. I need to stop.

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  21. That 5 o’clock drive home gets me every time. Every morning I wake up and say I’m not drinking today, but at 5 I pass that one store on the way and stop for wine. About once a week I can pass that store without stopping and I’m so proud of myself but the next day I cave, and everyday after that. Same on the weekends, what Can I do to pass the cravings?

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  22. I am not a day drinker at all….but at night after work or I sit down to relax for the eve I have a hard time resisting a glass of wine. It is almost like I will not let the thought go..then I become anxious….until I give myself that glass of wine. This is a psychological thing…what can I do to defy or ignore these thoughts or maybe cravings?.

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  23. This is my first day of admitting I have a problem and I have to stop drinking. I had a glass of wine while cooking dinner and then another during and then another after. Then another with desert. I woke up to a mostly empty bottle of champagne, I don’t remember opening and a nasty hangover. I realized I’ve been upping my consumption over time, which led to this. I have no idea why and I don’t know how to talk to husband about it. I’m completely lost.

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  24. Yay day one done and dusted. Interesting just being back on this site reminds me of how much I loved the two years I didn’t touch alcohol…feel the urge to surpass the two year mark this time

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