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Getting through wine o’clock

July 24, 2014 781 comments

Late in the afternoon is often the hardest time. How do you get through the witching hours without drinking?

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  1. I just read one today I will try tomorrow …notice (the thought) name (the thought/feeling) let it be …don’t try and control it just observe without judgement and it passes

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  2. Wow I’m reading all of these comments and I can’t believe how many people are out there doing the same stuff that I do!!! It’s a crazy, vicious cycle. I think I may use this site from now on to help me get through the witching hours-thanks to all of you!! It’s so nice to feel like you aren’t’ alone.

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  3. Hi, My first day again and it’s like you read my mind – how can I come home, feed the cats, walk the dog, look at the clutter and not open the wine? Thank you.

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    1. Maybe get rid of the wine so it’s not there when you get home? After a week sober I turned into a clean up the clutter freak! Maybe you will too! :)

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  4. What helps me is the video I made of myself on the morning after the last time I drank. I could see myself lookng dreadful and describing how utterly miserable I was. I described my dreading the day ahead anticipating how hard it would be to get through meetings and the working day feeling the way I did. I had bloodshoot eyes, haggard looking skin, and I had bags under my eyes- basically I looked the,way I felt.

    If I am ever tempted to drink, I review this video and it puts me right off.

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  5. I came upon Mrs. D’s blog the other day and then this site. Both are very helpful. I like Mrs. D’s idea of drinking a non-alcoholic drink in a pretty glass with a stem on it so as not to get “stem withdrawal”. Good one Mrs. D! I also believe that reading about previous bad experiences, and visualizing my own past bad experiences helps immensely, at least in my case. Here’s to one day at a time! (lifts pretty glass with stem on it)

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  6. I can’t believe how many of the folks here sound like me. I’d wake up and say I won’t drink today. Then by 2pm I’d start thinking about drinking and around 4pm, cheering because I could stop work (I work from home) and drink. Then I’d drink in the pantry so no one would see me, then drink while I read my book and “relaxed”, then drink while I cooked dinner. I’d stop around 6 pm but by then I’d have had several drinks. I am so tired of this and on day 5 of no drinks at all. I am taking this one day at a time. Just knowing I”m not the only one with a special “witching hour” is making me feel better.

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  7. Well its been four dayz.. Cant believe ive done it this far.. I go for walks.. I just get out the house.. i was attacked in my house 7 years ago.. No wonder i started drinking.. I now realise i need help.. I want to stay in my lite.. God help me please..

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    1. We all use alcohol to help numb pain. It’s easy to get hooked as we learn to use it for coping but then we become dependant.
      Go to your Dr or try an AA meeting if you are really at a rock bottom. They offer a great program and are friendly and welcoming. xox

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  8. My son passed away at 24 yrs old, horrific. 10 yrs later his brother at 32 yrs old passed in horrid accident. It’s ok I deserve a drink who else could handle this. Morning, I’m never going to drink again, please just get thru the day. Pass the liquor store, maybe just a bottle of wine, really I need this. The anxiety the next day, the feeling of worthlessness, really I’m never drinking again. My third son, who tried desperately to save his brother, took his life. I just can’t do this, I need a drink, ok I will only drink alone. Morning afraid to look at my phone, did I text anyone, the anxiety grows, did I post something. So afraid to look. Look at lunch, like waiting will make it go away. Oh good it looks ok, don’t remember texting or posting. But it looks good don’t think anyone noticed. Good I feel ok, may as well stop at the store, just put my phone away. Have a drink, I’ll text I’m ok now, another drink, ok I’m doing good I know what I’m doing. Wake up afraid again, can’t remember at what point I stopped drinking. The cycle goes on. Hey I have an excuse, I’m sad, I’m depressed, I’ve lost way to much. Well I’m done, can’t take blacking out, the anxiety it brings me. I was never a drinker, I hope I can be strong and get what’s left of my life and make my son’s and my youngest son proud of me. Thank everyone for sharing, I felt like I was alone in these horrid feelings of repeating behavior that I hated

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    1. I was drinking almost that much too. It was then I realized it was getting totally out of hand…and my personality was starting to change. I was like Jekyll & Hyde, with Hyde (the mean one) coming out after the evening binge drinking. I just stopped a few days ago…glad i found this group…I need help getting through wine oclock too.

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  9. Just remember that when you wake up the next morning you will never regret your decision not to drink. Not once have I stayed abstinent through wine o’clock and woke up the next morning and said, “damn, I wish I had that glass of wine last night”.

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    1. Good point! I will remember that. When I was sober before I loved the feeling of going to bed clear headed, not dehydrated and dizzy,and waking up refreshed and not hungover. That is what I am going to keep in mind tonight.

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  10. I have found having fish and chips as an early dinner helps. Not very healthy I know…but I never feel like drinking alcohol with fish and chips. Just a nasty, sugary coke :)

    Drinking loses its appeal on a full belly.

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  11. Been drinking every day for 30 years .

    This is my first day of not drinking .

    I need to do due to hbp and other problems .
    Got through it so far but its only the first day 0(

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  12. I dunno how to get thru it. I don’t want to get to beer thirty today. I have drank every day for over 5 years. Prayer, doing a craft hobby, my son being here, running…nothing helps to get past beer thirty. I gotta do it today. Gotta do it.

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  13. Usually I have a glass of diet ginger ale and lime with ice in a beer glass. I try to talk about my feelings more instead of stuffing them down with booze.

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  14. Today marks 140 days clean. Despite my past failed attempts to quit, this time has been easy breezy until today. I don’t know if it’s because summer months are approaching and kids are out of school, but I’m REALLY struggling today folks! Please HELP!

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  15. I’m looking for support in terms of attending a first social event with other people drinking. I usually practice with my drinking band mates every Sunday, but I’ve managed to avoid practice the last four Sundays. I’m at 32 days but I’m dreading practice this weekend. Any suggestions welcome!
    In terms of avoiding the witching hour, I drink tea and eat milanos, or I make a special drink with raspberry cordial and club soda. But I only started those rituals after two weeks. Before that I remained glued to blogs and stayed in bed:)

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  16. i got myself a new yz250f is anyone knows what kind of dirtbike that is but i got it around my 60 day sobriety date its a hobby i did when i was in high school and it feels so nice a stress free to ride after a hard day anyone that loves motocross can definently try riding to keep there mind off of it

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  17. Today is mine and my husband’s 4th day. The NBA playoffs are tonight also. Usually he watches that with alcohol. He text me and asked me to get him a beer. I said no. He said if I got just 1 it would be ok. I said 1 leads to more. Anyway it ended because I text him, “God you are making this hard for me!” We are Christians and are both very active in the community and thus far have been able to not have anyone worry about us. I feel bad because I felt like I was making him unhappy, but I know he wants to quit too. Me cooking with wine is like how he will have alcohol during sports. The thing with me though is I have Sensory Processing issues so I think the wine muted that.

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  18. I am on 3 days. I always have this picture in my head of sipping wine, cooking dinner, kids playing outside… and while it does start that way it usually ends with a fight with my husband, and guilt. The other thing I don’t like is always worrying about how much alcohol was left. Heaven forbid I settle down for the night and then realize the alcohol is gone.

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    1. Oh my goodness this resonates with me…I start with great intentions and turns into a s storm…I don’t want that for me or my family anymore…praying to get through today. I haven’t known what it’s like to wake up sober in years….

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    2. Oh man… always the fights :(
      I can ‘t believe my husband is still married to me after all the stupid things I get worked up about when drinking. Too many mornings I’ve spent going into the bedroom apologizing after fighting then passing out on the couch.

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    3. Me too. But really I just drink too many wines (not just the normie one or two), feel sick and tired and grumpy, sleep like shit, wake up feeling like shit and do it all again the next day, even when in the morning I say I won’t. I feel like I’m always on Day 1 and really struggling to get wine out of my life. I’ve given up nicotine and all sorts in my life but wine is really hard. Is it because it’s legal and everywhere??

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    4. My romantic idea is based on something I saw once. I was in my late teens, and I went on a trip to Washington, DC with my boyfriend. We met some of his friends at an outdoor cafe, it was late spring. These women were sitting there, in dresses, drinking a glass of wine. I thought that was so cool and sophisticated. And THAT IMAGE got me started on my drinking problem. For some reason, when 5 o’clock hit, I would get that image and immediately think “cool, sophisticated, urban” and I would retreat to the porch or the deck with a “nice” glass of wine or two, or three. or occasionally four. ooops the bottle is gone… maybe go down to the store for another bottle.. or maybe a beer on top of that would be ok…. I wish I had never seen those women being “cool, sophisticated, and urban.”

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    5. I literally could have posted this! I seem to romanticize wine and our experiences. I think oh let’s just try to be moderate 1 last time.

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  19. I go to the gym. A good hard workout (or an easy, breezy workout– like a tai-chi class) is just the thing! Plus, i’m getting my endorphins from a good source instead of from booze.

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