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Getting through wine o’clock

July 24, 2014 683 comments

Late in the afternoon is often the hardest time. How do you get through the witching hours without drinking?

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  1. Hi
    I’m new and its been a month since my first drink. I feed my cats and cook a meal and go to bed early. I would have expected my depression to lift but I am deep in depression at the moment and seeing doctor tomorrow. I feel physically sick as well as miserable and unfocused. I don’t want to cave in and have a drink because I do not see a future with it in my life. It’s temporary. I like a soda with a twist in a a tall glass.

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  2. I am finding that if instead of pouring wine, I take my dogs out for a walk, I can pass up wine o’clock! I still miss it! I have started Gentle Yoga, thinking that helps!

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  3. I work pretty late hours .loniness hits hard when I open my door . I found I have to have a plan what I am going to do for the time to fly . I will read books and paint . I shut my phone off when doing these things because I don’t want to get distracted or perhaps week

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  4. Day 3 for me..
    I have just finished reading “Mrs D is going without”
    I had a month off in July then my father passed away so slipped back into the old habits just to numb the pain.
    I owe it to myself and my family to be the best person I can.
    We will see.

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  5. Day 3 for me..
    I have just finished reading “Mrs D is going without”
    I had a month off in July then my father passed away so slipped back into the old habits just to numb the pain.
    I owe it to myself and my family to be the best person I can.
    We will see.

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  6. How do people get through Wine O’clock? I will drink from 5 pm onwards daily, usually 3 bottles of wine a day… I want to stop this but how to get through Wine O’clock.?

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    1. Change your setting. Take on any activity that starts at 4pm – walking, hiking, yoga, shopping, napping. As long as you are not in the same place where you usually drink it can work. That may mean somebody is going to go without dinner if you are the family cook, but that’s ok. You have to put yourself first.

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  7. Well, this web site reinforces what we all know…”you’re not so unique”. Day 3 for , but i don’t allow myself to mark it off until I head to bed. Good luck to you all.

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  8. I have been trawling this site ,it fills me with encouragement ! I like visualising the wine witch but it leaves me with a problem when is she most likely to show up, I have come to the conclusion she never leaves me.
    Today she was with me at breakfast ( I live in Spain and it is socially acceptable to drink at any time of the day) I envy all those people who sit and talk over a glass of beer / glass of wine . they never seem to get drunk, of course I don’t know them maybe their on this site with me. Today the wine witch was particularly alluring and very seductive almost convincing me that I had not had a drink for the last 5 days and surely that proves your not an alcoholic. My mind replied we have been through this before and you keep trying Witch and winning ! no more I know the game by now ,So Witch stay in the shadows I know your there Sexy,Seductive promising the world to me if I will just give in to you, but for now at least i,m not playing ! oh I know you will try again later, you always do. For today though I win.

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  9. It has been really refreshing (?) to read so many of these posts today. The last time I went 2 days without a drink was seven years ago. Ever since, I have had at least one (and often two bottles) glass of wine every day. This doesn’t make me happy and I hide it as much as possible. My new husband has expressed concerns a number of times and yet he still married me. I guess I’m lucky.

    While yesterday I had a normal amount for me (about a bottle and a half) I woke up in the night feeling more horrible than usual. Vomited even. Then I didn’t go to work today because I felt unwell. Of course earlier today I encountered the usual resolve to cut back and not do it again, but here I am on my second glass of wine.

    This is a horrible trap and I recall very clearly the day in my mid 20′s when I realised I love alcohol and became instantly dependent.

    Sometimes I imagine all the things I may do if it weren’t for alcohol- socialise more freely, finish projects, genuinely think through decisions, stay awake through a movie, learn new skills, have better skin, remember things… The list goes on.

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  10. This is good adivce. I am trying to keep busy between 5 and 8 and then the craving seems to lessen. It’s true that when I wake in the night I feel a little panic that I’ve got a hangover and then feel so pleased when I don’t. I never wake in the morning wishing I had drunk the night before. But I am thinking all day about whether I need to quit or whether I’m alright to drink. I know I want to give it up because it does seem to dominate everything and yes, I’ve had horrible nights and regretted things the next day. I’ve felt embarrassed and I’ve seen other drunk people and thought, ‘God is that what I’m like?’. I suppose I keep on justifying my need to drink to myself. Is that normal? Sometimes I only have two glasses and sometimes a bottle but I think it that I want to be free to be thinner and fitter and to be free. It would be good to hear what anyone thinks about this……

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  11. Have a shower, and while enjoying the flowing aTer, imagine me as a child never thinking about alcohol. Then I spend time looking after my skin, smoothing cream onto myself and then get into my pyjamas. This takes me through witching time. It’s become a ritual.

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  12. One trigger for me is my pool. I have friends over to “float” and catch some rays and in the past we would never float without a drink. It was great just to relax in the pool for the day and slug the beers, not a care in the world right… Well I still have those days floating in the pool with family and friends the only change is they will have a drink or several and I have my infused water. Sometimes I feel like a beer would be great but then push it out of my mind and just float and remember that tomorrow morning I will wake up and be able to function and feel great! Life is good!!!

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  13. I just joined this site today. I just finished a long day. I am tired. I live alone. I have an open beer beside me and more in the fridge and a bottle of wine in support if needed. This is the hardest 3 hours to get through without alcohol for me. Any advice for me would be great.
    I am at day 0. Hope to start day 1 tomorrow.

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  14. Wow. The illness is real.
    I’m on day 2. My nerves are SHOT.
    I’m nervous, irritable and unfocused.
    But my delightfully addicted mind was just telling me that I could really use a glass (read bottle) of wine. Then I’d feel so much better.
    Just need to get through the night and look forward to waking up without a headache or nausea. I love waking up refreshed at the crack of dawn.

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  15. I have just started using “My Food Bag”. They deliver all the food for your meals during the week so I don’t have the excuse of going to the supermarket at 5pm. Once I get through that 5-6pm time and have eaten dinner it’s a lot easier. I’ll do this for a few weeks and see how it helps. My husband is picking up the milk and other bits and pieces we need so I’m not tempted in these early weeks.

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  16. In the beginning of living sober I did not know where to sit in my house, because someone told me to change everything had to Change. So instead selling my home or buying new furniture or some other half baked idea I decided to sit where I drake everyday for 15 years, I grabbed my rocks glass and went to the freezer and instead of filling the glasss with ice I filled it with frozen pineapple.

    Then got the clearest decanter I could find and filled it with cool water. Took one of our goood silverware spoons and sat down,

    I calmly poured the cool water over the frozen pineapple chunks and took the spoon and slowly stirred it

    I then would scoop a pineapple chunck on my spoon put its contents of cool water and pineapple into my mouth. I would close my eyes and take a deep breath as the sensation of sweetness would coax my tongue and begin to freeze my mouth, I would then use my tongue and place the frozen fruit on the back area where my wisdom teeth used to be and then take a sip of the cool water.

    Eventually the ice coaxing the pineapple would melt and I would use my gums where the fruit rested and gwaw it gently until it was dispateded then swallow the context.

    Open my eyes and repeat this action for about 10 minutes to maybe and hour or until I was satiated with the comfort of the action of a drink,

    This process happened almost everyday for about three months. I still at times need the escape of the drink and when I make the production of the cleanest rock glass and decanter and check in to check out.

    I’ve been living sober now for over two years and much step work, reading and discovering a new relationship with my higher power is my journey today.

    I write in hopes not to oversimplify how easy it is to just stop because it’s not. But what I am suggesting is maybe get over geeked up on a simple joy and keep your mind open and things will change.

    Recently I wanted a drink, a real one,
    I thought about it but of course I had some excuse not to….
    Oh I have work in the morning
    I have to go to dinner with the in laws
    Dam it I have the function to attend.
    I had a hundred of road blocks that got in my way to go drink.
    Then I stopped. And laughed.

    How things have change,
    I used to have ally these excuses I couldn’t stop.

    Life has changed and my first gift I discoverd was frozen pineapple and water,

    I going to get one now because well… I deserve it,

    God bless and take what works for you and shelf the rest because maybe you’ll find a use for it later.

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