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Sober Treats

July 24, 2014 190 comments

These are the little things that get us through the flat times. They may seem small but are very important and hugely powerful.

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  1. I bought myself an inexpensive silver plated bracelet that you thread murano glass beads onto and a bag of said beads – also not expensive – so that I can thread one on for each month I accomplish. Three so far. I haven’t told anyone what it’s for- it’s my little secret reminder.☺️

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    1. I’m going to do this! I need a visual reminder of what I have accomplished. I don’t have daily support from my partner. He lost his drinking buddy and is mourning her I think.

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  2. My two eldest kids (10 and 8) have to read every day for school and I have to sign their diaries to say they’ve done so. So, we started a new little routine…. once the two babies are in bed, 7pm ish, I light candles in the living room while hubby and kids make hot choccie, then the four of us sit together in the living room, just for 20/30 minutes, reading our books and sipping our hot choccie. I absolutely love it. I’m ashamed to think that not so long ago I would be three quarters of a bottle down by that point.

    Long may my children humour me in this pleasure :)

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  3. Well I can afford (price wise and waistline wise) to have a lot more treats in general now. I love going out for a morning tea of lattes and cake and sitting in the sunshine watching my children play and laugh. I love going on shopping expeditions and buying clothes I like that fit since I’ve lost weight from not drinking. I love feeling full of energy and getting to regular gym classes that I really enjoy because I’m not hungover. I love waking up to a clear head- that in itself is a treat..when for so many years the opposite has been true! I love reading books again. I now take the kids out to all sorts of places I never did before..like the library, the park, and the market, because I am thinking of them instead of myself and my addiction. So then, my treat is seeing my children happy…I could not hope for anything more really! Feel so blessed to be sober and have my life back.

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    1. I am 12 days sober and already I have a completely different contact with my children, like you say it’s about them and not me and my addiction….
      Lovely post..Thanks

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  4. My favourite sober treat is making the time to read a good novel, which I do a little bit every day. It gives me a chance to drop into an alternate world, which I kind of need, without all the nasty parts of blotting out the world with wine. Reading like I used to read when I was younger has been one of the great pleasures of sober living.

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    1. I love the books by Robert Galbraith (the outed JK Rowling) first one was great, second one which came out recently even better.
      First post by me (!) – I’m at home on a Saturday night with lots of wine around and trying not to drink it! I started reading Mrs Ds blog which resonated in all kinds of ways – and have now been following everyone’s comments on this site. Not many days sober for me though – only 7 as I have a had a few failures.

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    2. Me too. How great to open the book the next day and REMEMBER what happened in the last chapter before bedtime! I get lost in stories when I’m looking for a wine-time cop-out (though more often I’m cooking, and I find if I get over the first ten minutes of pangs – trusty lime and soda in a wine glass – I can relax with that too).

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    3. Yeah I’ve been a bit slack on the novel reading front lately and am feeling it… I’ve got Caitlin Moran’s new book maybe i’ll try to get in that tonight

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  5. Tons of treats for me… really good tea, Lindt chocolate (I heard there is a salted caramel out but i haven’t seen it yet), slow beach walks, body balance classes, candles, baths, reading, buying things at the market that I normally wouldn’t but then realise it’s the same price as a bottle of wine and think “why not” (huge juicy olives stuffed with blue cheese – OMG!), contemplating the sunrise…. I did lots of these things before but they are SOOO much better now!!!!

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    1. I agree about the new treats I’m purchasing at the market, that I would usually spend that money on champagne, now its fancy cold press juices, dark chocolates!

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  6. I’m trying to remember the things I like…..I have lost some of who I am in the fog I was in. Between being mum and wife, and hiding from myself by drinking – I’m really not sure who I am anymore. I know I am finding more pleasure in the simple, every day things. I hope that in time, I can be the person I am meant to be – whoever she turns out to be.

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    1. I really relate to this comment so much of my identity was a party hard drinker. I was a guarantee for a party quite often by myself unfortunately, but like you I am finding simple pleasures wonderful! I am training hard and eating well and my mood has benefited 10 fold! I also am not sure where my new identity lies but I just know its not the big fat party guy anymore! Should I aim for a new persona or let one develop organically? whatever…i’ll be doing it healthy smile on my face.

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      1. I’m only on Day 5 but I can really relate to this. Felt today that I’m not really sure who I am without the wine! The day is soo long – what did I used to do to fill up the time (for me, I mean – not for others like hubby and kids) before wine came along? But I’m looking forward to finding out and rediscovering or inventing a whole new me.

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    2. Wow That describes me too. I can’t remember all the little things I like…my life has been in a big fog. Im looking forward to find out who I really am without the booze :)
      Deede

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    3. Your comment really hit home. I’ve been trying to understand what it is I’m going through in terms of losing my old self and becoming my “new” me. I used to have FOMO (fear of missing out) but now I have JOMO (joy of missing out) as I’m really tuning into ME and luckily, I am really liking who I am. I have the patience and the gratitude to move forward with this new identity; healthy, strong, loving and hopeful.

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    4. Yes I too can really relate to what you are saying. I too had a persona that I feel was clouded by drink and all the carry on that went with that. Plus it lasted on and off for 3 decades! I find it weird getting to know myself. I also find it scary that I can’t blame my drinking/hide behind my drinking and have to deal with feelings that seem so raw!………happiness included. All power to you and you are not alone x

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    5. I know this is an old post, but, I am new to the site and your description is exactly one of the things that scares me about becoming sober…I have lived this way so long, I have forgotten who I am and even what I like…and what do you do with all of the time when you’d usually be drinking? I’d love to hear an update of how it looks to you now, further on. Thank you for sharing!

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    6. I also identify with your comment. I’ve known for a while that I lost myself but didn’t connect it to my drinking. How’s that for denial. One more reason to quit.

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  7. My sober treat has been a new skin care product each weekend. Something slightly expensive( saving so much money on the weekend not drinking!). People are telling me I look good lately. I like to think its a combination of no alcohol in my system and the new skincare products in my medicine cabinet:)

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  8. Buying a soda stream (with all that money I saved by not buying wine) was the best investment I ever made. I keep a lemon or lime in the freezer and grate some of it with a microplane into my icy cold fizzy water.

    That and my sudoku gets me through.

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    1. I was talking to someone today who was suggesting that soda stream is a great investment. I relish the quest to find ace good drinks that are delicious. She was also saying about Lime in them. Going to get one! Sadly I don’t see much marketing of them as a great alternative to booze.

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    2. Don’t what I’d do with out my soda stream. Get thru about 2 litres a day of ‘bubbly water’. At wine o’clock put in nice glass and add some citrus.

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  9. I have read through all the comments and envy you people the peace you have found! I am still a bit frantic, being newly sober. Here is a list I am making up on the fly:
    - buy a new puppy; she is my treat for doing something right for myself
    - buy a new book? So many of you on here seem to find comfort in reading
    - garden, garden, garden–buy a pretty new birdhouse for the garden? Lots of new plants and run out even in the middle of the night and plant something to avoid drinking
    - keep a jug of green smoothies in the fridge so I can have a refreshing sip whenever I want. I just drank 900 ml of “extreme green” smoothie recipe…oops. That’s 540 calories. Oh well
    - keep some delicious snacks on hand…but what. Will think about that.
    - start exercising. But what? A little run down the street at night? yoga?

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  10. Just thought I’d share this gorgeous, and it truly is gorgeous, mushroom soup recipe I made this week following a pretty bad stomach bug I had where i couldn’t eat anything solid, but this was a bit more filling than tinned soup so I gave it a go. At the end of the recipe, I blended the whole thing into a smooth soup rather than with the chunky mushrooms in but that was only because after putting the 2nd batch of flour in, there were lumps of flour i couldn’t get rid of. I didn’t think it needed the extra flour so may well be worth just leaving that bit out if you want it chunky. But it is still beautiful as a creamy soup so either way you want to do it will be great still.

    INGREDIENTS

    SERVINGS 6
    8 ounces fresh mushrooms
    2 tablespoons onions, chopped
    1 -2 garlic clove, minced
    2 tablespoons butter
    2 -3 tablespoons flour (separated)
    2 cups chicken broth
    1 cup light cream or 1 cup evaporated milk
    1⁄2 teaspoon salt
    1⁄4 teaspoon pepper
    1⁄4 teaspoon nutmeg

    DIRECTIONS

    Cut the mushrooms into slices.
    Melt butter in large frying pan. Add in onions, garlic, and mushrooms. Cook until onions are soft.
    Blend in 2 T. flour and stir.
    Add in the chicken broth and heat until slightly thickened while stirring frequently.
    Stir cream with additional 1 T. flour and seasonings. Add in cream to soup. Heat to thicken while stirring frequently.
    Serve and enjoy!

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  11. Being sober, Ive remembered the person I was before I started drinking. Ive rememebered the things I used to enjoy; reading, eating, watching a movie (and remembering the ending!), writing, painting my toe nails, crosswords, helping my kids with their homework, buying jewelry, writing a diary, burning incence, making photo albums, walking in the sunshine, me time – too name just few! I relize now how alchol was just stripping me bare of all the things I enjoyed to do.

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    1. Oh how I needed to read this today! I was thinking the same last night. All the interests I had before this got out of hand. Drinking, then hangovers, thinking about not drinking, then feeling unwell all the time and beating ourselves up takes us away from our true selves…I want me back too :)

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  12. I have discovered online jigsaw puzzles. I do small ones – 100 pieces – which gives me a 20 minute burst of pleasure. Doing doing jigsaws is apparently very good for getting both sides of brain to work together and producing good brain chemicals. I certainly find it very calming and there are so many beautiful pictures to choose from – like chocolates in a box!

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    1. I too recently discovered jigsaw puzzles. They are fun and quite satisfying. Glad to hear they are good for the brain. I do some word games too. I think the games may be addictive and I’m okay with that.

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    2. I’m going to try that. Lately, I’ve been playing this dumb-ass game named “Candy Crush”. It takes me to la-la’ville. Perhaps the jigsaw thing would be a little more appropriate, heh. xo

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  13. I am just starting out and today is my last ever hangover. I have decided to treat myself every third month to a facial or body treatment. I am also going to join the leisure centre to do some fitness classes.

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  14. I bought wool which became my new hobby and gave me something to do in the evenings. It’s amazing what you can learn off You Tube. I started with a plain blanket and am now up to doing cabled socks.

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    1. I love it! Plus it’s really hard to knit and drink, don’t even ask how many times I’ve had to correct my mistakes the next day.

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    2. I love the idea of learning to crochet. A great site for thousands of free knitting and crochet patterns is Ravelry. Good luck with the crocheting Charlie.

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  15. I’m just looking online at buying myself some RayBans and then I’m going to fix up my car so that it doesn’t look like a drunk/crazy person has been driving it!

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  16. My treat came unexpectedly: to be fully present in the evening after 5:30–to walk dogs in cool evening, read a book and remember it, and not wonder who I emailed or texted in the morning.

    On a crasser note, calculated how much I spent in wine for a month and used it to buy an iPAD, with $ left over.

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    1. Love the fact you bought an iPad. I’ m finding mine great at 3 am when I can’t sleep and log onto this site. I did Dry July last year and sponsored myself. Worked out what my alcoholic consumption would normally cost in a month and did something way more useful with the money. Been with out booze 5 days this time. This time think I’ll treat me. Thinking about a pair of winter boots, really expensive ones.

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  17. I can’t believe I missed my 800 days on the orange counter yesterday..Guess I was too busy with my family & celebrating my son’s 44th birthday. Anyhow so happy to continue my sober journey, I am going on holiday this week & on a holiday to the same place,where over 2 years ago I decided to have my last alcoholic drink ..right in the middle of the holiday..no one was more surprised than myself but I had been reading a lot of books about giving up & the clincher was Allen Carr’s book ‘Stop Drinking Now’, I often think about it now..must have been the right time for me..After that I read Jason Vale’s book & Mrs D’s which led me to this great site which is so supportive..Happy sober day to you all X

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  18. Day 15 for me. Yipee!!! I am enjoying lots and lots of chocolate, but I have decided exercise really works for me during the witching hour. Especially hitting the trails and biking.

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  19. Books, lots of books. I’m devouring them now the way I used to, now that boozing isn’t taking up my whole evening. A book costs the same as a bottle of wine so I feel it’s a good exchange :) And knitting, agree about far fewer mistakes and more complicated patterns. Rather than adding to my enormous stash of wool, I’m treating myself to new more ambitious patterns. :)

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    1. same. I never read much when drinking, would just about manage a drunken stumble through a trashy mag before passing out. Now, books books books!

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  20. No -Cook Ginger Slice (gluten,dairy &refined sugar free)
    2 Cups of unsalted nuts (I used almonds,cashew and Brazil)
    ! cup fresh dates (or dry soaked 15mins and drained)
    2 tbsp coconut oil (melted or soft)
    ! tsp ground ginger
    Process and then press into a lined swiss roll tin.
    Chill in the fridge while you make the icing
    ICING
    3/4 C Soft or melted coconut oil
    1/2 C honey
    1/2 C cashew butter
    3 tsp ground ginger.
    Whizz up and smooth over with a wet knife or spatula
    store in an airtight container in fridge or freezer until ready to serve.

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  21. I felt guilty about spending 70$ on facials, but I can get one every month now and still have money left since I don’t buy wine or beer! Crazy

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  22. I have been treating myself with all the money that is now in my account. I made a garden room, bought plants and thrifted cool items so my ‘hang out’ space is inviting, no booze allowed. I bought an instant camera and I am making a summer book of photos what I did, after a suggestion from Prudence. I get a mani pedi every once in awhile and take care of my skin, hair and nails to try to maximize what the change has been for me physically. I allow myself some carbs (sweets) once in awhile they help with the cravings. Good stuff helps.

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  23. My treat / reward for reaching Day 30 is a beautiful Bitossi ribbed glass tea mug ( with filter and lid) and a one cup stainless steel tea pot. Looking forward to trying out loads of new special teas – just for me!!

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    1. lovely treat, Im going to buy a new tea pot with a internal tea leaf strainer and buy loose tea leaves, I might wait till Christmas as im hoping hubby will get me one x

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  24. Chia dessert or breakfast or snack
    I have a plan for sugar cravings. Got chia seeds? Shake them up in almond or coconut milk, throw in vanilla or favourite flavours, a bit of stevia, honey or coconut syrup, & voila, a gorgeous healthy treat to have with pure yogurt &/or cream, any fruits. Mixed with whipped cream & frozen berries, put in freezer, & voila, icecream, but with a powerful protein & nutrition hit. Love it

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  25. So this might sound a bit odd … but since I’ve stopped drinking, I’ve really been enjoying dried fruit as a little snack/treat in the late afternoons as a little pick me up. Must be a sugar craving but the cherries are really good! :)

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  26. I brought myself a `pandora’ bead saying `faith’ for my evolve (like Pandora) bracelet the other week, and this week a massage – yep i’ve gone all out, but don’t feel so guilty or would have spent it on wine anyway!

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    1. That’s a lovely idea :-) my Pandora only has room for one more bead and it’s reserved for my grandson due in July. Will get his initial. Then I am going to start an Evolve bracelet.

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  27. Searching the internet for nice recipes, making desserts, new little rituals like eating in the garden. Make simple stuff more fancy and luxurious, buying lovely fruits which i usually found too expensive in the past. Basically spoil yourself with lots of small inexpensive things.

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  28. Each week that I stay ahead of the ‘fray’ (alkie), I put $30 in a jar. Each month, I now treat myself to a nice mani/pedi….SO RELAXING, and when they offer that complimentary glass of vino, I ask for water instead. I leave the salon hydrated and relaxed, with jazzy hands & feet! Fellow sojourners, treat yourself well, be good to yourself, be PROUD of your decision, and don’t let any slip-ups sink your sub…..carry on~!

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