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‘brain re-training’ tag

Flip your thinking…

Wednesday 21 Jun, 2017, 1:01pm by Mrs D 16 comments

I’ll be honest I had a sad pang about not drinking the other day and had to quickly run over my ‘positive about sobriety’ thought processes to remind myself why my life is better now I’m sober. And when I say ‘quickly run over’ I really mean it. The sad thought popped into my head, I […]

“Would you like to sample some wine?”

Friday 9 Jun, 2017, 2:33pm by Mrs D 6 comments

She was very cheerful the lady at the supermarket who asked me this question. She was dressed smartly, standing beside her display table at the edge of the booze section which is also the end of the cheese and dips section. This is where the alcohol lives in the place where I do my weekly shop. It comes […]

Urge Surfing

Monday 23 Jan, 2017, 3:00pm by Mrs D 9 comments

A year or so ago I took part in a free online Mindfulness Summit which was amazing! I felt like I was attending the most incredible online university course on mindfulness, where every day there is a different guest star lecturer. I have to admit I was a real girly swat about it, faithfully listening every day, taking […]

‘The Voice’

Friday 18 Nov, 2016, 3:30pm by Mrs D 31 comments

No, not the TV show – the one in your head trying to convince you to drink. The one that whispers sweet nothings when you’re vulnerable and promises alcohol will make things better. The one that tells you you’re boring for not drinking, that everyone is judging you, that everyone else is having a Great […]

Doing a Party Sober

Sunday 12 Jun, 2016, 2:10pm by Mrs D 14 comments

I’ve been to quite a few parties as a sober person now and generally I don’t have a problem with them (unless I’m just totally not in the mood or it’s really not my scene). I’ve gotten pretty good at working inside my brain to lift my mood so that I can have a good […]

Visualisation

Thursday 14 Apr, 2016, 11:47am by Mrs D 11 comments

Visualisation was a really powerful tool for me early on. It was one of my main strategies for dealing with the awful hours between 4 and 7pm when I was desperate for a drink. Other strategies were cleaning the house, distracting myself with lots of noise and stimulation (radio and TV on, magazine open, computer on), eating […]

My Sober Skin

Monday 14 Mar, 2016, 4:10pm by Mrs D 5 comments

I think a big part of the reason I’ve never picked up a drink since I made the decision to stop doing that is that from Day One I put on my Sober Skin and left it there. From Day One I said to myself ‘I am now a non-drinker’ … and with that I […]

A Powerful Eulogy (Guest Post)

Sunday 14 Feb, 2016, 8:36am by Mrs D 10 comments

A lovely man who worked in the addiction sector here in New Zealand passed away recently. His name was David Lyndon Brown and he will be very much missed both by those who worked alongside him in the recovery community and those he helped. David’s good friend Suzy Morrison wrote this powerful eulogy for David and delivered […]

I deserve this…

Sunday 7 Feb, 2016, 5:16pm by Mrs D 17 comments

Once again here I am going on about brain re-training. It is VITAL! It is CRUCIAL! It is HUGELY INSTRUMENTAL in helping us get to a happy sober place! That is – not miserable being a non-drinker.. delighted as fuck that we’re not hooked on that shit any more and foolishly believing a whole lot […]

It doesn’t solve or fix anything…

Saturday 9 Jan, 2016, 8:56pm by Mrs D 7 comments

Alcohol is such a tricky drug. On the surface it appears to help us deal with things by relaxing us and ‘taking us away’ emotionally, yet in reality it does exactly the opposite. But it’s hard to see the reality because the surface impact is real. It works! If you are stressed – have a drink […]