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‘brain re-training’ tag

It doesn’t solve or fix anything…

Saturday 9 Jan, 2016, 8:56pm by Mrs D 7 comments

Alcohol is such a tricky drug. On the surface it appears to help us deal with things by relaxing us and ‘taking us away’ emotionally, yet in reality it does exactly the opposite. But it’s hard to see the reality because the surface impact is real. It works! If you are stressed – have a drink […]

Learning to understand ourselves

Monday 4 Jan, 2016, 3:52pm by Mrs D 7 comments

I knew after I stopped drinking that in order to be genuinely at peace with being sober I needed to retrain my own brain so that I wouldn’t keep bombarding myself with woe-is-me thoughts about booze. I knew I couldn’t control the world around me but I could control my own thinking and that really needed to change. […]

A powerful observation

Sunday 27 Dec, 2015, 8:41am by Mrs D 12 comments

I go on a lot about brain-retraining in early sobriety… how we need to really embrace the reality of a sober life by actively working inside our grey-matter to turn our thinking around. How we need to actively challenge every hard-wired belief that tells us booze is the magical ingredient that makes occasions special. It took […]

A special Christmas gift (Guest Post)

Friday 6 Nov, 2015, 8:10am by Mrs D 7 comments

The Silly Season is fast approaching and already there are rumblings in the Members Feed about what a difficult time of year it is for us sober people. It can be a real chore as there does seem to be such an emphasis on BOOZE over the next few months. End of year work parties, Christmas […]

Drinking Dreams..

Monday 2 Nov, 2015, 10:39am by Mrs D 9 comments

It’s very hard to explain the intensity of a drinking dream to someone who isn’t sober. It’s one of those experiences we sober people have that are hard to convey in words to non-sober people. It doesn’t sound that bad to say: “Last night I dreamt I was drinking. It really upset me and I woke up feeling unsettled.” […]

My tastebuds have changed…

Sunday 27 Sep, 2015, 7:29am by Mrs D 6 comments

This might seem a bit silly and trite but I’m often incredulous about this. Before I got sober I hated soda water (club soda, sparkling water, seltzer water, or fizzy water… call it what you will) – like HATED it. I would NEVER drink it, turning it down with a ‘no thanks, I don’t like […]

My inner critic…

Friday 11 Sep, 2015, 9:41am by Mrs D 12 comments

There’s so much talk in sobriety about us all learning to take care of ourselves (so often a foreign concept to us boozers), be kind to ourselves, nurture ourselves.  And I do that a lot, I look after myself and try to do things just right all the time but still fall into ‘lazy’ and ‘bad’ phases where […]

Special Sobriety X-Ray Eyes..

Sunday 31 May, 2015, 12:02pm by Mrs D 4 comments

Did you know that when you get sober you develop X-Ray eyes? You do! It’s amazing. @chatnoir discovered this the other day when she was out shopping for cat food and stopped at a cafe. Here’s what she saw: “Some young women were having wine in very large glasses. Suddenly I seemed to develop X-ray eyes!! […]

What’s the worst that people can think?

Wednesday 15 Apr, 2015, 6:51pm by Mrs D 16 comments

On my lowest days I sometimes have glum thoughts about my sobriety. It happens rarely nowadays (at 3+ years sober) but it does happen, and always when I’m tired or stressed or miserable. In other words when I’m vulnerable. When I’m vulnerable my stupid brain will start manufacturing thoughts designed to make me feel worse. They […]

Re-frame the image

Sunday 26 Oct, 2014, 9:14am by Mrs D 14 comments

Member @Zentient wrote this in the members feed a couple of days ago…  “Trigger! And I don’t mean Roy Rogers’ horse. TV scenes with drinking, especially this: A woman sitting at her computer, enraptured by the screen and looking so relaxed while she cradles a glass of wine. Also, the scenes where the ensemble cast […]