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‘calm’ tag

Our tribe…

Saturday 2 Apr, 2016, 4:59pm by Mrs D 30 comments

This might sound strange but in many ways I am grateful for being an addict. Why? Because without having experienced the despair of my addiction, or the grit of the fight to get free of it, I wouldn’t be who I am today. I wouldn’t be so in touch with the the strong and determined part of […]

Self-Care (guest post)

Sunday 31 Jan, 2016, 11:56am by Mrs D 19 comments

We talk about self-care a lot here at Living Sober. It’s so ridiculously important. Right now for me it’s the end of the long summer school holidays, I’m tired and run down, haven’t had a lot of time to myself and my self-care has slipped. Not just physical things like diet, exercise, and sleep … but […]


Sunday 5 Jul, 2015, 4:19pm by Mrs D 5 comments

I don’t think I was very resilient when I first got sober. My emotional coping mechanisms weren’t well formed AT ALL and I would be quite knocked by tricky phases in my life. Every time I had a rough week where I felt overly sad or angry or stressed or some such I would be […]

There is no downside (guest post from @ylang-ylang)

Saturday 23 May, 2015, 8:49am by Mrs D 17 comments

Member @ylang-ylang posted this update in the Members Feed the other day and many of us thought it was so fantastic it needed to be featured here as a guest post… ========== @ylang-ylang: I haven’t got a story or a new experience to share. I just wanted to send you all, my fabulous sober family, love. […]

Relaxation triggers …

Sunday 12 Apr, 2015, 2:46pm by Mrs D 20 comments

5 o’clock was bloody hard for me in the early days of getting sober. Very bloody hard. Because this was the point in the day when I would usually start cracking into the wines. It was what I’d done for many many years. Five O’clock being Wine O’clock was a fully intrenched habit (read: addiction). In the […]

Some benefits take a LONG time to emerge….

Friday 6 Mar, 2015, 12:54pm by Mrs D 14 comments

Some personal benefits come relatively quickly to the newly sober person – things like better sleep and improved physical wellness. Some personal benefits take a bit longer to settle in – like improved moods, increased self-respect, weightloss & a sense of inner calm. And some benefits take much, much longer to emerge. These are the benefits that aren’t just about […]

I am enough…

Monday 6 Oct, 2014, 8:21pm by Mrs D 25 comments

For some reason these three simple words often make me teary. If you can say this to yourself – ‘I am enough’ – and mean it, what a monumental thing that is. If you can say this to yourself – ‘I am enough’ – and believe it, then surely you must have this crazy thing called life […]

Sober Hindsight

Sunday 28 Sep, 2014, 12:19pm by Mrs D 18 comments

Sober Hindsight is one of my favorite things about living alcohol-free. I talked about this in my Bubble Hour podcast… and also just mentioned it when replying to a member in our ‘Members Feed’ this morning. Sober Hindsight is something you only really experience when you’ve got a few sober weeks under your belt, and you’ve managed your way through […]

Naval Gazing…

Monday 15 Sep, 2014, 11:28am by Mrs D 32 comments

Oh how scornful I used to be about naval gazing! “Naval gazing is for sissies” (I’d say). “People who always look inward are boring” (I’d say). “Self-help books are naff” (I’d say). My how times have changed. I am now the queen of naval gazing - I love it!  I’m lapping up as many self-help books as I […]

‘Boredom’ – what is it exactly….?

Monday 18 Aug, 2014, 1:58pm by Mrs D 22 comments

I’m interested in the concept of boredom … particularly how it relates to boozing & sobriety. I always used to say that I drank because I was bored. And without a doubt one of the most difficult things for me in getting sober has been learning how to just ‘be’ with a wide-open brain. Is […]