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‘community’ tag

I am not the problem….

Monday 30 Oct, 2017, 1:24am by Mrs D 8 comments

At the end of my drinking days I was a miserable booze-soaked wreck. I had so much wine coursing through my veins I was soaked in the stuff. I was completely ground down by my heavy and dysfunctional drinking habit. I felt weak, powerless and pathetic because I couldn’t control myself when it came to alcohol. […]

Why Does Online Recovery Work? (Guest Post)

Tuesday 24 Oct, 2017, 2:25pm by Mrs D 43 comments

This guest post comes from Thomas Mabon a.k.a @behind_the_sofa who also volunteers as a Community Moderator on this site. ============ For some people when they are first embarking on getting sober the prospect of sitting in a room full of strangers face to face spilling your guts while it’s all still so raw and painful […]

Things I love about being sober

Thursday 23 Mar, 2017, 1:00am by Mrs D 56 comments

I love that most nights I sleep very deeply for many hours. Such a change from when I had terrible alcohol-induced insomnia all the time. I love that when I wake up in the morning my first thought isn’t ‘how much did I drink last night.’ I love being free from that awful morning guilt and  misery. […]

Are you in the Members Feed?

Sunday 12 Feb, 2017, 5:32pm by Mrs D 19 comments

I have a sneaky suspicion that there are people who visit Living Sober to read blogs and look in the Sober Toolbox.. but don’t ever go inside the Community Area. A few people have commented lately that they’ve been coming to the site for a while but have only just discovered the Members Feed – and […]

Do I miss drinking?

Sunday 29 Jan, 2017, 9:46pm by Mrs D 26 comments

Someone asked me the other day if I missed drinking. I almost giggled at the absurdity of the question but managed to stop myself from doing so – thankfully, as that would have been rude. Instead I simply said ‘No I don’t miss it.” I’m sure I sounded quite casual about it, but believe me […]

Christmas Is Coming (Guest Post)

Sunday 18 Dec, 2016, 8:49am by Mrs D 9 comments

This guest post comes from the lovely and very wise Suzy Morrison who works in the addiction sector and has many years in recovery herself. She shared her ‘Sober Story’ with us here, and participated in an ‘Ask An Expert’ post which you can see here. This is her very pertinent take on how to survive the upcoming […]

A 21st Party (Guest post from @morgan)

Sunday 4 Sep, 2016, 7:55am by Mrs D 17 comments

Lovely long-time member @morgan travelled to Wellington recently to attend a 21st party. She stayed at her elderly Aunt’s house and visited with Living Sober members who live here. She was also supposed to be meeting up with  her man this weekend, but he cancelled at the last minute due to work commitments. As a result the weekend could have turned […]

You Are Not Alone

Sunday 31 Jul, 2016, 4:49pm by Mrs D 17 comments

This is one of the main things I want every person who is stuck in a miserable boozy hell-hole – and every person who is working damn hard to get sober – to know. You Are Not Alone. Being miserably addicted can be one of the most lonely and isolating places to be. I know […]

Cutting Edge Addiction Conference..

Friday 15 Jul, 2016, 3:10pm by Mrs D 3 comments

The Cutting Edge addiction conference is fast approaching! This is a 3-day event run by Dapaanz who are New Zealand’s professional association for people working in addiction treatment. I went last year and found it incredibly fascinating and enriching. This year it is taking place on September 7-10 in Rotorua. The theme is ‘Celebrating Transformation’ with a […]

Just Hold On..(Guest Post)

Saturday 21 May, 2016, 6:32pm by Mrs D 20 comments

Getting sober is hard work – it is! Anyone who says otherwise is either lucky or lying.  Of course everyone’s story is different but it is probably fair to say that there is a big amount of work that everyone needs to do in the early stages of recovery to re-frame their identity.  During the early days without […]