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‘community’ tag

Illuminating and rewarding

Friday 6 Apr, 2018, 8:07pm by Mrs D 16 comments

Boy does life change when we quit drinking and are no longer subject to the impacts of artificually altering our moods with alcohol. It’s something quite else when you stop drinking for a long length of time and live through ups and downs and moods and interactions and gatherings and events and challenges and more ups […]

Some benefits take a LONG time to emerge….

Friday 23 Mar, 2018, 12:00am by Mrs D 11 comments

Some personal benefits come relatively quickly to the newly sober person – things like better sleep and improved physical wellness. Some personal benefits take a bit longer to settle in – like improved moods, increased self-respect, weightloss & a sense of inner calm. And some benefits take much, much longer to emerge. These are the benefits that aren’t just about […]

Silly Season Survival Guide

Wednesday 29 Nov, 2017, 1:43am by Mrs D 14 comments

This is a really tricky time of year for us sober people. There are numerous parties and gatherings to navigate. There are family pressures. There are a million bullshit marketing messages being thrust at us. Everywhere we turn it seems we are being slapped in the face with the fact that we are DIFFERENT and […]

I am not the problem….

Monday 30 Oct, 2017, 1:24am by Mrs D 8 comments

At the end of my drinking days I was a miserable booze-soaked wreck. I had so much wine coursing through my veins I was soaked in the stuff. I was completely ground down by my heavy and dysfunctional drinking habit. I felt weak, powerless and pathetic because I couldn’t control myself when it came to alcohol. […]

Why Does Online Recovery Work? (Guest Post)

Tuesday 24 Oct, 2017, 2:25pm by Mrs D 44 comments

This guest post comes from Thomas Mabon a.k.a @behind_the_sofa who also volunteers as a Community Moderator on this site. ============ For some people when they are first embarking on getting sober the prospect of sitting in a room full of strangers face to face spilling your guts while it’s all still so raw and painful […]

Things I love about being sober

Thursday 23 Mar, 2017, 1:00am by Mrs D 58 comments

I love that most nights I sleep very deeply for many hours. Such a change from when I had terrible alcohol-induced insomnia all the time. I love that when I wake up in the morning my first thought isn’t ‘how much did I drink last night.’ I love being free from that awful morning guilt and  misery. […]

Are you in the Members Feed?

Sunday 12 Feb, 2017, 5:32pm by Mrs D 65 comments

I have a sneaky suspicion that there are people who visit Living Sober to read blogs and look in the Sober Toolbox.. but don’t ever go inside the Community Area. A few people have commented lately that they’ve been coming to the site for a while but have only just discovered the Members Feed – and […]

Do I miss drinking?

Sunday 29 Jan, 2017, 9:46pm by Mrs D 26 comments

Someone asked me the other day if I missed drinking. I almost giggled at the absurdity of the question but managed to stop myself from doing so – thankfully, as that would have been rude. Instead I simply said ‘No I don’t miss it.” I’m sure I sounded quite casual about it, but believe me […]

Christmas Is Coming (Guest Post)

Sunday 18 Dec, 2016, 8:49am by Mrs D 9 comments

This guest post comes from the lovely and very wise Suzy Morrison who works in the addiction sector and has many years in recovery herself. She shared her ‘Sober Story’ with us here, and participated in an ‘Ask An Expert’ post which you can see here. This is her very pertinent take on how to survive the upcoming […]

A 21st Party (Guest post from @morgan)

Sunday 4 Sep, 2016, 7:55am by Mrs D 17 comments

Lovely long-time member @morgan travelled to Wellington recently to attend a 21st party. She stayed at her elderly Aunt’s house and visited with Living Sober members who live here. She was also supposed to be meeting up with  her man this weekend, but he cancelled at the last minute due to work commitments. As a result the weekend could have turned […]