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‘cravings’ tag

A powerful observation

Sunday 27 Dec, 2015, 8:41am by Mrs D 12 comments

I go on a lot about brain-retraining in early sobriety… how we need to really embrace the reality of a sober life by actively working inside our grey-matter to turn our thinking around. How we need to actively challenge every hard-wired belief that tells us booze is the magical ingredient that makes occasions special. It took […]

My tastebuds have changed…

Sunday 27 Sep, 2015, 7:29am by Mrs D 6 comments

This might seem a bit silly and trite but I’m often incredulous about this. Before I got sober I hated soda water (club soda, sparkling water, seltzer water, or fizzy water… call it what you will) – like HATED it. I would NEVER drink it, turning it down with a ‘no thanks, I don’t like […]

Relaxation triggers …

Sunday 12 Apr, 2015, 2:46pm by Mrs D 20 comments

5 o’clock was bloody hard for me in the early days of getting sober. Very bloody hard. Because this was the point in the day when I would usually start cracking into the wines. It was what I’d done for many many years. Five O’clock being Wine O’clock was a fully intrenched habit (read: addiction). In the […]


Sunday 22 Mar, 2015, 2:44pm by Mrs D 29 comments

It’s always so uplifting when new folk join our website and start sharing regularly in the Members Feed. I find it especially interesting to notice the differences between what they experience in early sobriety, and what my experiences were. One of the most common lines I see new members write in their updates is “I’ve figured out what my triggers […]

The wine would call my name…..

Wednesday 4 Feb, 2015, 12:52pm by Mrs D 28 comments

A restauranteur friend just emailed Mr D and said “I can get my hands on a stunning Central Otago pinot noir from a liquidation sale. Would you like a case?” I told Mr D he should go for it. I asked “will having that case in the house make you drink more than you normally would?” He replied “Nope” and […]

You’re not a bad person, you’re addicted….

Sunday 9 Nov, 2014, 8:27am by Mrs D 28 comments

….but the problem is, if you let yourself down often enough, break promises you’ve made to yourself constantly and often act in a manner you  wish you wouldn’t – you do start to believe that you are shit. Because you can’t blame anyone else for the broken promises. It’s you making the promises, and it’s you […]

My sugar research…

Friday 31 Oct, 2014, 8:13am by Mrs D 34 comments

(Warning: Long Post with some science-y stuff in the middle) I’m kind of reluctant to post this because – honestly – worrying about sugar etc is the LAST THING YOU SHOULD BE DOING if you are new at sobriety. I spent the first year or two of my recovery drinking all manner of sugary drinks […]

The growing phenomenon of online recovery…

Thursday 14 Aug, 2014, 11:23am by Mrs D 14 comments

I was contacted a couple of weeks ago by a journalist writing an article on online recovery. She sent me a bunch of questions via email and I answered them early one Saturday morning. Her name is Allie Holbrook and she’s a sober blogger & freelance writer living in Australia. Her  blog ‘And Everything Afterwards’ is awesome. Her article on online […]

Thick Sludgy Mud (warning: laboured metaphors within)

Thursday 7 Aug, 2014, 6:14am by Mrs D 79 comments

That’s how I think of early sobriety. You’ve jumped off the Boozy Cliff into a ginormous field of Thick Sludgy Mud and you have to wade your way through it to get to Peaceful Sobriety Island. It’s hard bloody work. Your brain freaks the fuck out that you’ve taken away it’s beloved drug … you brain also keeps bombarding […]

Alcohol in food….

Tuesday 5 Aug, 2014, 11:01am by Mrs D 3 comments

I was asked on my Facebook page how I felt about boozy deserts like sherry trifle or crepes with orange liquor. The lovely Facebooker Lyn said “Booze in cooked food doesn’t worry me because it does burn off .. it’s the liquor soaked sponges and fruits etc that I love and would still like to be […]