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‘drinking-culture’ tag

Silly Season Survival Guide

Wednesday 29 Nov, 2017, 1:43am by Mrs D 8 comments

This is a really tricky time of year for us sober people. There are numerous parties and gatherings to navigate. There are family pressures. There are a million bullshit marketing messages being thrust at us. Everywhere we turn it seems we are being slapped in the face with the fact that we are DIFFERENT and […]

What is alcoholism? (Guest Post)

Thursday 23 Nov, 2017, 9:57am by Mrs D 6 comments

This guest post comes from our lovely long-time member @mrwtf. ============== “The difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from old ones.” – John Maynard Keynes Is alcoholism a disease, a made up excuse, or a symptom of something else? I have always been uncomfortable with people claiming that alcoholism […]

Navigating Social Spaces Sober (Guest Post)

Saturday 2 Sep, 2017, 10:05am by Mrs D 11 comments

This guest post comes from member @emjaycee. A writer friend of mine (and sober hero!) based in Christchurch. ============ Once you have made the decision to quit alcohol, the practicalities of navigating the social spaces of your life loom into view. In late May, 2016, when I was considering total abstinence, my main worry was […]

Your internet your way…

Wednesday 19 Jul, 2017, 8:23am by Mrs D 10 comments

As we all know we live in a booze soaked world and nowhere is this more apparent than online. In cyber worlds like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter it’s nigh on impossible to avoid photos of happy people drinking, memes and jokey images about getting drunk and being hungover, and slogans that reinforce harmful myths about the supposed […]

“Would you like to sample some wine?”

Friday 9 Jun, 2017, 2:33pm by Mrs D 6 comments

She was very cheerful the lady at the supermarket who asked me this question. She was dressed smartly, standing beside her display table at the edge of the booze section which is also the end of the cheese and dips section. This is where the alcohol lives in the place where I do my weekly shop. It comes […]

Let’s Be Clear (Guest Post)

Sunday 5 Feb, 2017, 4:00pm by Mrs D 18 comments

This guest post comes from the always awesome Sue Kerr (@suek). Enjoy! ========== When you first quit drinking, you feel very, very weird. That thing you just quit was a huge part of your life, and without it you’ll likely feel really uncomfortable, freakish even. It takes a while to get comfortable living without booze. […]

Do I miss drinking?

Sunday 29 Jan, 2017, 9:46pm by Mrs D 26 comments

Someone asked me the other day if I missed drinking. I almost giggled at the absurdity of the question but managed to stop myself from doing so – thankfully, as that would have been rude. Instead I simply said ‘No I don’t miss it.” I’m sure I sounded quite casual about it, but believe me […]

Christmas Is Coming (Guest Post)

Sunday 18 Dec, 2016, 8:49am by Mrs D 9 comments

This guest post comes from the lovely and very wise Suzy Morrison who works in the addiction sector and has many years in recovery herself. She shared her ‘Sober Story’ with us here, and participated in an ‘Ask An Expert’ post which you can see here. This is her very pertinent take on how to survive the upcoming […]

Growing up Kiwi (guest post)

Sunday 28 Feb, 2016, 1:07pm by Mrs D 12 comments

This guest post comes from my lovely friend Ali Ikram – a man who grew up in New Zealand drinking alcohol regularly, until one day he realised he had a choice in the matter…. ======== We don’t really do rites of passage in New Zealand society. On Pentecost Island in Vanuatu, manhood is only attained […]

A powerful observation

Sunday 27 Dec, 2015, 8:41am by Mrs D 12 comments

I go on a lot about brain-retraining in early sobriety… how we need to really embrace the reality of a sober life by actively working inside our grey-matter to turn our thinking around. How we need to actively challenge every hard-wired belief that tells us booze is the magical ingredient that makes occasions special. It took […]