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‘emotions’ tag


Friday 27 Apr, 2018, 12:21am by Mrs D 7 comments

Tiredness has a lot to answer for I reckon. Without us even realising it. Living in a state of general tiredness makes everything harder. And this isn’t “I’ve-only-had-2-hours-sleep-for-four-days” tiredness. This is “I’ve-been-sleeping-badly-for-ten-years” tiredness. The slow burning, long build-up tiredness that we don’t even realise is there. When I was boozing (most of my adult life) […]

Broken Angel (Guest Post)

Wednesday 8 Nov, 2017, 11:28am by Mrs D 26 comments

This guest post comes from Suzy Morrison, the Consumer Project Lead at Matua Raki – one of the agencies that funds Living Sober.  ============ I am in long term recovery from addiction and haven’t had a drink for 30 years, but I’ve never liked talking about my use of alcohol. I’ve always felt shame about […]

Feeling all the feels…

Sunday 20 Aug, 2017, 4:33pm by Mrs D 22 comments

Make no bones about it. This is what getting sober is all about. When you quit drinking and commit to spending 100% of your time with a wide open (sober) brain, you are committing to feeling all the feels all the time. What are all the feels? Oh just the charming emotions like sadness, anger, disappointment, […]

Getting Sober vs Living Sober

Thursday 25 May, 2017, 2:39pm by Mrs D 16 comments

Getting sober and living sober are two very different things. One is a short(ish) term project that is hard work and requires a big concerted effort. The other is a long term lifestyle choice that requires the implementation and nurturing of a variety of nourishing tools and techniques. Getting sober requires grit, determination and bravery. It involves you […]

Christmas Is Coming (Guest Post)

Sunday 18 Dec, 2016, 8:49am by Mrs D 9 comments

This guest post comes from the lovely and very wise Suzy Morrison who works in the addiction sector and has many years in recovery herself. She shared her ‘Sober Story’ with us here, and participated in an ‘Ask An Expert’ post which you can see here. This is her very pertinent take on how to survive the upcoming […]

A 21st Party (Guest post from @morgan)

Sunday 4 Sep, 2016, 7:55am by Mrs D 17 comments

Lovely long-time member @morgan travelled to Wellington recently to attend a 21st party. She stayed at her elderly Aunt’s house and visited with Living Sober members who live here. She was also supposed to be meeting up with  her man this weekend, but he cancelled at the last minute due to work commitments. As a result the weekend could have turned […]

Authenticity (Guest Post from @suek)

Saturday 20 Aug, 2016, 4:03pm by Mrs D 28 comments

  We are very fortunate that the lovely @suek has written another insightful guest post for us. I always really appreciate her take on matters of identity and truth. Her willingness to explore herself in brutally honest yet gentle and loving ways makes for compelling reading. I know many of you will relate to what she is exploring […]

The Brutal Truth (Guest Post)

Saturday 18 Jun, 2016, 5:25pm by Mrs D 37 comments

I’ve always said that one of the most helpful things for me in staying sober is remembering very clearly the boozy hell I was in when drinking. I keep a very clear image in my mind of sloppy, numbed out, drunk, miserable me and bring it to mind when need be (i.e. when my addict […]

Happiness is a new rug (Guest Post)

Sunday 5 Jun, 2016, 5:52pm by Mrs D 21 comments

This update was posted by our beloved long-time member @ylang-ylang (over 700 sober days hooray!) in the Members Feed the other day. In it I thought she perfectly summed up how our lives can unfold and settle into a new state of calm and joy after we give up booze. With her permission I am […]

Our tribe…

Saturday 2 Apr, 2016, 4:59pm by Mrs D 30 comments

This might sound strange but in many ways I am grateful for being an addict. Why? Because without having experienced the despair of my addiction, or the grit of the fight to get free of it, I wouldn’t be who I am today. I wouldn’t be so in touch with the the strong and determined part of […]