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‘gratitude’ tag

Learning to understand ourselves

Monday 4 Jan, 2016, 3:52pm by Mrs D 7 comments

I knew after I stopped drinking that in order to be genuinely at peace with being sober I needed to retrain my own brain so that I wouldn’t keep bombarding myself with woe-is-me thoughts about booze. I knew I couldn’t control the world around me but I could control my own thinking and that really needed to change. […]

When sober gets old (Guest Post)

Thursday 3 Dec, 2015, 8:27am by Mrs D 15 comments

This guest post comes from my dear friend @suek. She writes brilliantly and is always full of such wisdom and warmth.  I will be publishing another post from her soon that follows on from this one – offering practical suggestions on how to approach life after sobriety. ================ @suek. So you’ve made the switch to sober. That’s brave and […]

A special Christmas gift (Guest Post)

Friday 6 Nov, 2015, 8:10am by Mrs D 7 comments

The Silly Season is fast approaching and already there are rumblings in the Members Feed about what a difficult time of year it is for us sober people. It can be a real chore as there does seem to be such an emphasis on BOOZE over the next few months. End of year work parties, Christmas […]

The Fear

Sunday 25 Oct, 2015, 1:37pm by Mrs D 20 comments

The biggest thing I always want to say when I’m asked about my sobriety is that living alcohol-free life is not the boring-ass disaster that I feared it would be. I was terrified at the prospect of never drinking again! Utterly terrified. And I know a lot of us drinkers are. We know we’ve got a problem, […]

The little things…

Saturday 10 Oct, 2015, 11:08am by Mrs D 23 comments

It seems to me that a lot of people have been commenting in the Members Feed recently about all the little things that they are noticing they are able to achieve now that they are not drinking. We often talk about the big changes – better sleep, clearer skin, improved feelings of pride and self worth, more […]

Wellington Get-Together..

Sunday 4 Oct, 2015, 9:17am by Mrs D 15 comments

Living Sober has just had it’s inaugural annual get-together! A community-led meet up of brave sober warriors in Wellington. A weekend of meals, walks, talks, and togetherness. I joined the group for a late lunch yesterday at a hotel in the centre of town. We were given a side area off the main bar – a […]

There is no downside (guest post from @ylang-ylang)

Saturday 23 May, 2015, 8:49am by Mrs D 17 comments

Member @ylang-ylang posted this update in the Members Feed the other day and many of us thought it was so fantastic it needed to be featured here as a guest post… ========== @ylang-ylang: I haven’t got a story or a new experience to share. I just wanted to send you all, my fabulous sober family, love. […]

Sober Freak

Saturday 16 May, 2015, 9:03am by Mrs D 11 comments

Ok I am officially a sober freak! It’s Saturday morning and I woke today at 6.20am, picked up my iPad and spent half an hour checking on on the Members Feed and my other online sites. Then I jumped out of bed at 7am to have a nice long hot shower. Got dressed, then popped […]

An interview with myself (guest post from @behind-the-sofa)

Wednesday 11 Mar, 2015, 11:03am by Mrs D 28 comments

One of the lovely members of this site @behind-the-sofa recently celebrated 1 year of living alcohol-free (woo hoo!!). He posted a quirky update in the Members Feed that was essentially an interview with himself – a very clever way to extrapolate what he’s thinking and how he’s feeling after working hard on himself for a whole year. I […]

When is a newbie no longer a newbie?!

Monday 2 Mar, 2015, 10:39am by Mrs D 22 comments

Someone asked in the Members Feed a while back “When do you stop being a newbie?”. I thought it was a great question. I often refer to ‘newbies’ when I write things like ‘hang in there you newbies’ … and when I do I am thinking of those who are brand new to sober living. But […]