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‘honesty’ tag

Authenticity (Guest Post from @suek)

Saturday 20 Aug, 2016, 4:03pm by Mrs D 28 comments

  We are very fortunate that the lovely @suek has written another insightful guest post for us. I always really appreciate her take on matters of identity and truth. Her willingness to explore herself in brutally honest yet gentle and loving ways makes for compelling reading. I know many of you will relate to what she is exploring […]


Sunday 26 Jun, 2016, 5:48pm by Mrs D 10 comments

I think we need to accept that there is a certain amount of grief that goes with getting sober. Grief for the good bits of our past boozy life. Yes the good bits. We have to acknowledge that and grieve it and accept the grief as a part of sobriety. Not a huge amount, but […]

The Brutal Truth (Guest Post)

Saturday 18 Jun, 2016, 5:25pm by Mrs D 37 comments

I’ve always said that one of the most helpful things for me in staying sober is remembering very clearly the boozy hell I was in when drinking. I keep a very clear image in my mind of sloppy, numbed out, drunk, miserable me and bring it to mind when need be (i.e. when my addict […]

Members Survey – Results!!!

Tuesday 17 May, 2016, 5:31pm by Mrs D 3 comments

Well this is exciting! Finally I get to publish the results of the Members Survey that we ran over Christmas time. Thank you each and every one of you who gave your time to contribute to this survey – your feedback and opinions are being used to help make decisions about the site’s future. The […]

Remember (Guest Post)

Sunday 20 Mar, 2016, 7:51am by Mrs D 22 comments

This guest post comes from Mark Goodson, author of the blog ‘The Miracle of the Mundane” (great title, great blog). He has been sober since October 13, 2007. This is a beautiful piece of truthful writing. =========== I will never forget the withdrawal. That trembling of nerves under skin, sweat from shaking pores. Wave after wave of […]

Working my recovery….

Monday 22 Feb, 2016, 10:57am by Mrs D 23 comments

Today is day 1630 of sobriety for me and this is proving an interesting time for me right now… The hard work of early sobriety is over, not drinking is normal and therefore the pride and joy from being a non-drinker is also a bit diminished (still there but not so acute). Nowadays I find myself having […]

Putting down the drink is just the beginning..

Friday 13 Nov, 2015, 10:35am by Mrs D 16 comments

I’m not sure that you can just stop drinking alcohol and make no other changes or do no other ‘work’ on yourself and expect to become happily sober. No matter what your reasons for drinking were, or what the quantities were that you imbibed, or what you did / said / felt while you were […]

Am I a failure?

Monday 21 Sep, 2015, 9:26am by Mrs D 34 comments

Am I a failure because I’m not calm and contented all the time? Am I a failure because I seem to have developed low-grade anxiety lately and am aware that often I have this slight ‘sense of impending doom’ that isn’t related to anything specific that is currently going on? Am I a failure because […]

My inner critic…

Friday 11 Sep, 2015, 9:41am by Mrs D 12 comments

There’s so much talk in sobriety about us all learning to take care of ourselves (so often a foreign concept to us boozers), be kind to ourselves, nurture ourselves.  And I do that a lot, I look after myself and try to do things just right all the time but still fall into ‘lazy’ and ‘bad’ phases where […]

Degrees of Engagement

Sunday 16 Aug, 2015, 8:01am by Mrs D 16 comments

Occasionally I get asked to speak at events about my drinking and sobriety story. Strangely it’s not something I get nervous about. Am always happy to share honestly so that normal drinkers can understand what it’s like for those of us who can’t control alcohol, and so that others who might be secretly locked in a […]