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‘hope’ tag

To count or not to count….

Tuesday 14 Nov, 2017, 10:44am by Mrs D 6 comments

… that is the question. This topic bubbles around recovery communties constantly. Do you count your sober days? Some of us love counting our days – especially when it’s so easy to do with the sobriety calculator here at Living Sober. We watch our little yellow box tick up and up and enjoy celebrating milestones. We see […]

I am not the problem….

Monday 30 Oct, 2017, 1:24am by Mrs D 8 comments

At the end of my drinking days I was a miserable booze-soaked wreck. I had so much wine coursing through my veins I was soaked in the stuff. I was completely ground down by my heavy and dysfunctional drinking habit. I felt weak, powerless and pathetic because I couldn’t control myself when it came to alcohol. […]

Underage drinking

Wednesday 13 Sep, 2017, 1:18pm by Mrs D 9 comments

I got caught underage drinking when I was sixteen. I was in a pub in Sumner near Christchurch (called the Marine Tavern from memory) swigging beer and dancing to a  covers band when the cops stormed in and picked out all us young’uns.  I remember being shit scared standing outside having my name and address taken down […]

Feeling all the feels…

Sunday 20 Aug, 2017, 4:33pm by Mrs D 21 comments

Make no bones about it. This is what getting sober is all about. When you quit drinking and commit to spending 100% of your time with a wide open (sober) brain, you are committing to feeling all the feels all the time. What are all the feels? Oh just the charming emotions like sadness, anger, disappointment, […]

Dear Person on Day One

Saturday 22 Apr, 2017, 1:29pm by Mrs D 91 comments

Welcome to a very special day – the first day of the rest of your life! I know that’s a terrible cliche but image that it’s true. Imagine that from today things start to really turn around for you. Imagine that today heralds the start of a massive period of self-growth. Imagine that today you […]

Things I love about being sober

Thursday 23 Mar, 2017, 1:00am by Mrs D 56 comments

I love that most nights I sleep very deeply for many hours. Such a change from when I had terrible alcohol-induced insomnia all the time. I love that when I wake up in the morning my first thought isn’t ‘how much did I drink last night.’ I love being free from that awful morning guilt and  misery. […]

BELIEVE change is possible!

Tuesday 28 Feb, 2017, 12:15pm by Mrs D 8 comments

I can tell you that change is possible. I can tell you my story of how I turned my life around, quit booze and completely re-shaped my identity as a non-drinker. I can share countless stories from other brave sober warriors about how they got themselves out of the booze trap. We can all shout […]

My New Year’s Resolution…

Friday 6 Jan, 2017, 3:18pm by Mrs D 9 comments

I’m not usually a huge one for New Year’s resolutions because I don’t want to feel useless when I don’t manage to stick to them them. But this year I reckon I came up with a good one… “I’m going to keep trying to be the best version of myself that I can be.” I like this one […]

On being a sober parent….

Sunday 27 Nov, 2016, 4:10pm by Mrs D 14 comments

I was watching a movie the other day and it showed a woman having a flashback to her childhood where her mum was a total wastoid and completely blotto all of the time. They showed her mum passed out on the sofa, vomiting at the table, slurring in the supermarket – it was really bad. And they […]

Divine Intervention (Guest Post)

Sunday 18 Sep, 2016, 3:10pm by Mrs D 21 comments

This guest post comes from Katrina Tanirau, a journalist living in Matamata. She reached out to me via Facebook offering to write something for the site and I said ‘go for it’! Little did I know she would deliver a piece as powerful and stirring as this one is. ========== Katrina: Thinking back on it now, […]