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‘raw’ tag

Illuminating and rewarding

Friday 6 Apr, 2018, 8:07pm by Mrs D 16 comments

Boy does life change when we quit drinking and are no longer subject to the impacts of artificually altering our moods with alcohol. It’s something quite else when you stop drinking for a long length of time and live through ups and downs and moods and interactions and gatherings and events and challenges and more ups […]

Feeling all the feels…

Sunday 20 Aug, 2017, 4:33pm by Mrs D 22 comments

Make no bones about it. This is what getting sober is all about. When you quit drinking and commit to spending 100% of your time with a wide open (sober) brain, you are committing to feeling all the feels all the time. What are all the feels? Oh just the charming emotions like sadness, anger, disappointment, […]

Divine Intervention (Guest Post)

Sunday 18 Sep, 2016, 3:10pm by Mrs D 21 comments

This guest post comes from Katrina Tanirau, a journalist living in Matamata. She reached out to me via Facebook offering to write something for the site and I said ‘go for it’! Little did I know she would deliver a piece as powerful and stirring as this one is. ========== Katrina: Thinking back on it now, […]

We didn’t know we were missing…

Sunday 10 Jul, 2016, 5:01pm by Mrs D 10 comments

Lovely long term community member @hetiheti wrote in the Members Feed recently as she approached her 700th sober day; “this sober lark is just the best thing ever”. These sorts of statements are always fantastic to hear - especially for new members who are in the early days of giving up. It’s so beneficial when you are grinding your way […]


Sunday 26 Jun, 2016, 5:48pm by Mrs D 10 comments

I think we need to accept that there is a certain amount of grief that goes with getting sober. Grief for the good bits of our past boozy life. Yes the good bits. We have to acknowledge that and grieve it and accept the grief as a part of sobriety. Not a huge amount, but […]

Remember (Guest Post)

Sunday 20 Mar, 2016, 7:51am by Mrs D 22 comments

This guest post comes from Mark Goodson, author of the blog ‘The Miracle of the Mundane” (great title, great blog). He has been sober since October 13, 2007. This is a beautiful piece of truthful writing. =========== I will never forget the withdrawal. That trembling of nerves under skin, sweat from shaking pores. Wave after wave of […]

Putting down the drink is just the beginning..

Friday 13 Nov, 2015, 10:35am by Mrs D 16 comments

I’m not sure that you can just stop drinking alcohol and make no other changes or do no other ‘work’ on yourself and expect to become happily sober. No matter what your reasons for drinking were, or what the quantities were that you imbibed, or what you did / said / felt while you were […]

You asked …

Friday 10 Oct, 2014, 5:57pm by Mrs D 28 comments

Member @preparedtochange (who has one of my favorite avatars on this site!) asked me this question in the Members Feed yesterday: “How do you move on from that need to escape your feelings by soaking yourself in wine?” Here’s the answer: With great bloody difficulty. Truthfully.. this was the hardest thing for me at first (aside from […]

Sober Hindsight

Sunday 28 Sep, 2014, 12:19pm by Mrs D 18 comments

Sober Hindsight is one of my favorite things about living alcohol-free. I talked about this in my Bubble Hour podcast… and also just mentioned it when replying to a member in our ‘Members Feed’ this morning. Sober Hindsight is something you only really experience when you’ve got a few sober weeks under your belt, and you’ve managed your way through […]

Still a work in progress (a post about sugar) …

Monday 1 Sep, 2014, 10:33am by Mrs D 69 comments

I have to be honest, sometimes I feel like a fraud because I’m not in the slightest bit ‘cured’ when it comes to dealing with emotional shit. I figured out early in sobriety that much of my drinking was about wanting to avoid tricky emotions. Yes it was also about me wanting things to be fun […]