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‘regret’ tag

Step outside of your boozy persona

Friday 19 Jan, 2018, 2:08pm by Mrs D 26 comments

Alcohol takes us to places that we would never go when sober. Dark places. Dangerous places. I’ve done some terrible things under the influence of alcohol that make me shudder today. Things that I have never shared publicly which says a lot about how dark they are because I’ve written many hundreds of thousands of […]

I am not the problem….

Monday 30 Oct, 2017, 1:24am by Mrs D 8 comments

At the end of my drinking days I was a miserable booze-soaked wreck. I had so much wine coursing through my veins I was soaked in the stuff. I was completely ground down by my heavy and dysfunctional drinking habit. I felt weak, powerless and pathetic because I couldn’t control myself when it came to alcohol. […]

Underage drinking

Wednesday 13 Sep, 2017, 1:18pm by Mrs D 9 comments

I got caught underage drinking when I was sixteen. I was in a pub in Sumner near Christchurch (called the Marine Tavern from memory) swigging beer and dancing to a  covers band when the cops stormed in and picked out all us young’uns.  I remember being shit scared standing outside having my name and address taken down […]

On flaws and forgiving ourselves..

Sunday 28 Aug, 2016, 7:06pm by Mrs D 10 comments

By crickey I am flawed. I am so deeply flawed it is not funny. I know I’m a brave and amazing sober warrior (as are many of you!!) but in other areas of my life I try and fail all the time. I promise myself I’m not going to eat sugar and then I furtively eat […]

Blessed relief…

Tuesday 8 Mar, 2016, 4:57pm by Mrs D 11 comments

I was interviewed by a journalist the other day (you can read the article here) and I was describing to her the crazy struggle that can go on in our heads over the course of a day when we are living with addiction. You know how it goes… * Wake up at 3am hungover, guilty and […]

The Rules…

Wednesday 28 Jan, 2015, 12:49pm by Mrs D 24 comments

I got the idea for this post from member @citygirl. She wrote a fabulous update in the Members Feed when she reached her magnificent 110 days sober. Here’s what she wrote: “Becoming sober has been one of the best decisions I have ever made. I am re-reading Mrs Ds book at the moment, after I […]

The 24-hour cycle of a boozer

Wednesday 21 Jan, 2015, 12:11pm by Mrs D 16 comments

Member @maryisnotafairy posted this in the Sober Toolbox recently and I thought it was bloody brilliant so am featuring it here as a blog post. At the time of posting she said “this really took me back to the last year of my drinking. My best tool is thinking through the drink. I never want to return to […]

The broken pieces of yesterday…

Tuesday 30 Dec, 2014, 6:20pm by Mrs D 27 comments

Member @twinkle just wrote a powerful update in the Members Feed about the crap day she had yesterday. It did sound like she’d had a mega crap day, but she’d managed her way through it with the help of various strategies (chocolate, online shopping, ice-cream) and no alcohol (yay!). She recounted the day, wrote honestly and proudly about […]

A letter to my past addicted self

Tuesday 5 Aug, 2014, 6:58am by Mrs D 3 comments

I was asked by an American rehab to submit an article for their website. They said “write a letter to your past addicted self. Be persuasive and empowering “. I didn’t hold back. ========================= Dear Mrs D, Here’s the thing. You’re hooked on booze. It’s got its claws into you and that’s just a fact. Don’t hide away […]