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‘self-care’ tag

Silly Season Survival Guide

Wednesday 29 Nov, 2017, 1:43am by Mrs D 8 comments

This is a really tricky time of year for us sober people. There are numerous parties and gatherings to navigate. There are family pressures. There are a million bullshit marketing messages being thrust at us. Everywhere we turn it seems we are being slapped in the face with the fact that we are DIFFERENT and […]

Never underestimate the power of Sober Treats

Friday 13 Oct, 2017, 2:52pm by Mrs D 12 comments

When I first quit drinking there were two main new habits (or tools) that I embraced early on to help with my recovery. These were habits I specificially adopted to help me deal with my new alcohol-free life. A life quite unlike the boozy one I’d been leading – a life that had me learning how to cope with being open […]

Your internet your way…

Wednesday 19 Jul, 2017, 8:23am by Mrs D 10 comments

As we all know we live in a booze soaked world and nowhere is this more apparent than online. In cyber worlds like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter it’s nigh on impossible to avoid photos of happy people drinking, memes and jokey images about getting drunk and being hungover, and slogans that reinforce harmful myths about the supposed […]

Getting Sober vs Living Sober

Thursday 25 May, 2017, 2:39pm by Mrs D 15 comments

Getting sober and living sober are two very different things. One is a short(ish) term project that is hard work and requires a big concerted effort. The other is a long term lifestyle choice that requires the implementation and nurturing of a variety of nourishing tools and techniques. Getting sober requires grit, determination and bravery. It involves you […]

Christmas Is Coming (Guest Post)

Sunday 18 Dec, 2016, 8:49am by Mrs D 9 comments

This guest post comes from the lovely and very wise Suzy Morrison who works in the addiction sector and has many years in recovery herself. She shared her ‘Sober Story’ with us here, and participated in an ‘Ask An Expert’ post which you can see here. This is her very pertinent take on how to survive the upcoming […]

Silly Season Inspirations (Pictorial Post)

Wednesday 7 Dec, 2016, 9:30am by Mrs D 26 comments

The end of the year can be a particularly tricky time for us sober people. Lots of financial pressures, social events to navigate, family dynamics to manage. It is particularly important that at this time of year we focus down on the small-but-very-powerful things around us that give us strength, lift our hearts, inspire us, make us feel […]

Doing a Party Sober

Sunday 12 Jun, 2016, 2:10pm by Mrs D 14 comments

I’ve been to quite a few parties as a sober person now and generally I don’t have a problem with them (unless I’m just totally not in the mood or it’s really not my scene). I’ve gotten pretty good at working inside my brain to lift my mood so that I can have a good […]

The Power of Lurking

Sunday 1 May, 2016, 3:02pm by Mrs D 10 comments

We are so fortunate in today’s world that we can do all manner of research, investigation and exploration from the comfort of our own homes. In the past if we wanted to find out what others are doing to get sober we’d have to front up to meeting rooms in our communities, or take books out […]

Working my recovery….

Monday 22 Feb, 2016, 10:57am by Mrs D 23 comments

Today is day 1630 of sobriety for me and this is proving an interesting time for me right now… The hard work of early sobriety is over, not drinking is normal and therefore the pride and joy from being a non-drinker is also a bit diminished (still there but not so acute). Nowadays I find myself having […]

I deserve this…

Sunday 7 Feb, 2016, 5:16pm by Mrs D 17 comments

Once again here I am going on about brain re-training. It is VITAL! It is CRUCIAL! It is HUGELY INSTRUMENTAL in helping us get to a happy sober place! That is – not miserable being a non-drinker.. delighted as fuck that we’re not hooked on that shit any more and foolishly believing a whole lot […]