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‘self-help’ tag

Getting Sober vs Living Sober

Thursday 25 May, 2017, 2:39pm by Mrs D 15 comments

Getting sober and living sober are two very different things. One is a short(ish) term project that is hard work and requires a big concerted effort. The other is a long term lifestyle choice that requires the implementation and nurturing of a variety of nourishing tools and techniques. Getting sober requires grit, determination and bravery. It involves you […]

Brighter and Lighter (Guest Post)

Tuesday 4 Apr, 2017, 9:27am by Mrs D 36 comments

One of our very brave and amazing community members @wvlheel has just celebrated his one year soberversary – yay! He wrote this passionate and emotional update in the Members Feed and I found it so powerful and moving I thought it worth sharing here as a guest post. ================ @wvlheel: My counter says 365. Woah. […]

All that effort…

Sunday 5 Mar, 2017, 8:39pm by Mrs D 17 comments

Boy I did use to put a lot of effort into being a booze-pig. So much time and energy spent planning my drinks, buying my drinks, drinking my drinks, and recovering from my drinks. On top of all the effort into my alcohol habit I also put a lot of effort into running the rest of […]

Are you in the Members Feed?

Sunday 12 Feb, 2017, 5:32pm by Mrs D 19 comments

I have a sneaky suspicion that there are people who visit Living Sober to read blogs and look in the Sober Toolbox.. but don’t ever go inside the Community Area. A few people have commented lately that they’ve been coming to the site for a while but have only just discovered the Members Feed – and […]

Let’s Be Clear (Guest Post)

Sunday 5 Feb, 2017, 4:00pm by Mrs D 18 comments

This guest post comes from the always awesome Sue Kerr (@suek). Enjoy! ========== When you first quit drinking, you feel very, very weird. That thing you just quit was a huge part of your life, and without it you’ll likely feel really uncomfortable, freakish even. It takes a while to get comfortable living without booze. […]

Urge Surfing

Monday 23 Jan, 2017, 3:00pm by Mrs D 9 comments

A year or so ago I took part in a free online Mindfulness Summit which was amazing! I felt like I was attending the most incredible online university course on mindfulness, where every day there is a different guest star lecturer. I have to admit I was a real girly swat about it, faithfully listening every day, taking […]

Silly Season Inspirations (Pictorial Post)

Wednesday 7 Dec, 2016, 9:30am by Mrs D 26 comments

The end of the year can be a particularly tricky time for us sober people. Lots of financial pressures, social events to navigate, family dynamics to manage. It is particularly important that at this time of year we focus down on the small-but-very-powerful things around us that give us strength, lift our hearts, inspire us, make us feel […]

‘The Voice’

Friday 18 Nov, 2016, 3:30pm by Mrs D 30 comments

No, not the TV show – the one in your head trying to convince you to drink. The one that whispers sweet nothings when you’re vulnerable and promises alcohol will make things better. The one that tells you you’re boring for not drinking, that everyone is judging you, that everyone else is having a Great […]

Cutting Edge Addiction Conference..

Friday 15 Jul, 2016, 3:10pm by Mrs D 3 comments

The Cutting Edge addiction conference is fast approaching! This is a 3-day event run by Dapaanz who are New Zealand’s professional association for people working in addiction treatment. I went last year and found it incredibly fascinating and enriching. This year it is taking place on September 7-10 in Rotorua. The theme is ‘Celebrating Transformation’ with a […]