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‘self-help’ tag

Visualisation

Friday 29 Jun, 2018, 12:47am by Mrs D 8 comments

Visualisation was a really powerful tool for me early on. It was one of my main strategies for dealing with the awful hours between 4 and 7pm when I was desperate for a drink. Other strategies were cleaning the house, distracting myself with lots of noise and stimulation (radio and TV on, magazine open, computer on), eating […]

Things I work on in recovery…

Monday 11 Jun, 2018, 12:00pm by Mrs D 24 comments

These are some of the things that I do to ‘work’ at my recovery, the things that keep me happily sober, the day-in-day out way that I look after my sober self and those around me (which feeds back to me of course). I got worried after I wrote this that I am sounding like […]

Write your way sober…

Thursday 24 May, 2018, 1:27am by Mrs D 18 comments

One of the things that is so hard about being addicted to alcohol is that much of the angst is internal. By the time I neared the end of my drinking days I had a lot of twisted beliefs, secret compulsions and miserable thoughts swirling around in my head. My thoughts were a noisy, angst-ridden jumble…thrown into […]

Never underestimate the power of Sober Treats

Friday 13 Oct, 2017, 2:52pm by Mrs D 12 comments

When I first quit drinking there were two main new habits (or tools) that I embraced early on to help with my recovery. These were habits I specificially adopted to help me deal with my new alcohol-free life. A life quite unlike the boozy one I’d been leading – a life that had me learning how to cope with being open […]

Getting Sober vs Living Sober

Thursday 25 May, 2017, 2:39pm by Mrs D 16 comments

Getting sober and living sober are two very different things. One is a short(ish) term project that is hard work and requires a big concerted effort. The other is a long term lifestyle choice that requires the implementation and nurturing of a variety of nourishing tools and techniques. Getting sober requires grit, determination and bravery. It involves you […]

Brighter and Lighter (Guest Post)

Tuesday 4 Apr, 2017, 9:27am by Mrs D 36 comments

One of our very brave and amazing community members @wvlheel has just celebrated his one year soberversary – yay! He wrote this passionate and emotional update in the Members Feed and I found it so powerful and moving I thought it worth sharing here as a guest post. ================ @wvlheel: My counter says 365. Woah. […]

All that effort…

Sunday 5 Mar, 2017, 8:39pm by Mrs D 17 comments

Boy I did use to put a lot of effort into being a booze-pig. So much time and energy spent planning my drinks, buying my drinks, drinking my drinks, and recovering from my drinks. On top of all the effort into my alcohol habit I also put a lot of effort into running the rest of […]

Are you in the Members Feed?

Sunday 12 Feb, 2017, 5:32pm by Mrs D 105 comments

I have a sneaky suspicion that there are people who visit Living Sober to read blogs and look in the Sober Toolbox.. but don’t ever go inside the Community Area. A few people have commented lately that they’ve been coming to the site for a while but have only just discovered the Members Feed – and […]

Let’s Be Clear (Guest Post)

Sunday 5 Feb, 2017, 4:00pm by Mrs D 18 comments

This guest post comes from the always awesome Sue Kerr (@suek). Enjoy! ========== When you first quit drinking, you feel very, very weird. That thing you just quit was a huge part of your life, and without it you’ll likely feel really uncomfortable, freakish even. It takes a while to get comfortable living without booze. […]