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‘self-help’ tag

Cutting Edge Addiction Conference..

Friday 15 Jul, 2016, 3:10pm by Mrs D 3 comments

The Cutting Edge addiction conference is fast approaching! This is a 3-day event run by Dapaanz who are New Zealand’s professional association for people working in addiction treatment. I went last year and found it incredibly fascinating and enriching. This year it is taking place on September 7-10 in Rotorua. The theme is ‘Celebrating Transformation’ with a […]

We didn’t know we were missing…

Sunday 10 Jul, 2016, 5:01pm by Mrs D 10 comments

Lovely long term community member @hetiheti wrote in the Members Feed recently as she approached her 700th sober day; “this sober lark is just the best thing ever”. These sorts of statements are always fantastic to hear - especially for new members who are in the early days of giving up. It’s so beneficial when you are grinding your way […]

Mindfulness in Recovery (Guest Post)

Sunday 8 May, 2016, 10:00am by Mrs D 6 comments

This guest post comes from Jay, the Community Outreach Director at One Mind Dharma.  ========== On March 20th of 2015, I was sitting in a psychiatric locked ward in Pasadena, California crying in the corner of my shared room. The bathroom had no door and neither did the bedrooms. There were cries and howls from […]

The Power of Lurking

Sunday 1 May, 2016, 3:02pm by Mrs D 10 comments

We are so fortunate in today’s world that we can do all manner of research, investigation and exploration from the comfort of our own homes. In the past if we wanted to find out what others are doing to get sober we’d have to front up to meeting rooms in our communities, or take books out […]

Visualisation

Thursday 14 Apr, 2016, 11:47am by Mrs D 11 comments

Visualisation was a really powerful tool for me early on. It was one of my main strategies for dealing with the awful hours between 4 and 7pm when I was desperate for a drink. Other strategies were cleaning the house, distracting myself with lots of noise and stimulation (radio and TV on, magazine open, computer on), eating […]

I deserve this…

Sunday 7 Feb, 2016, 5:16pm by Mrs D 17 comments

Once again here I am going on about brain re-training. It is VITAL! It is CRUCIAL! It is HUGELY INSTRUMENTAL in helping us get to a happy sober place! That is – not miserable being a non-drinker.. delighted as fuck that we’re not hooked on that shit any more and foolishly believing a whole lot […]

Self-Care (guest post)

Sunday 31 Jan, 2016, 11:56am by Mrs D 19 comments

We talk about self-care a lot here at Living Sober. It’s so ridiculously important. Right now for me it’s the end of the long summer school holidays, I’m tired and run down, haven’t had a lot of time to myself and my self-care has slipped. Not just physical things like diet, exercise, and sleep … but […]

It doesn’t solve or fix anything…

Saturday 9 Jan, 2016, 8:56pm by Mrs D 7 comments

Alcohol is such a tricky drug. On the surface it appears to help us deal with things by relaxing us and ‘taking us away’ emotionally, yet in reality it does exactly the opposite. But it’s hard to see the reality because the surface impact is real. It works! If you are stressed – have a drink […]

Sober First Aid Kit (repost)

Saturday 19 Dec, 2015, 11:16am by Mrs D 7 comments

Further to my ‘Silly Season Survival Guide‘ reposted last week, here is @suek’s brilliant expansion of the ‘Sober First Aid’ concept. I totally love this idea – have done since we first featured this post last year. I have put a kit together numerous times over the past year and will be doing one for […]

Sobermass and New Cheers (Reposted Guest Post)

Monday 14 Dec, 2015, 8:55am by Mrs D 9 comments

Some more  Christmas and New Years inspiration for you – this post comes from @_jjw_, a smart and lovely kiwi dude, and brave sober warrior. ===================== @_jjw_:This is my fourth sober Christmas. While many of us people who gave up drinking wait until after Christmas and New Years to put down the bottle, I launched my sobriety a […]