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‘shame’ tag

Step outside of your boozy persona

Friday 19 Jan, 2018, 2:08pm by Mrs D 26 comments

Alcohol takes us to places that we would never go when sober. Dark places. Dangerous places. I’ve done some terrible things under the influence of alcohol that make me shudder today. Things that I have never shared publicly which says a lot about how dark they are because I’ve written many hundreds of thousands of […]

Feeling all the feels…

Sunday 20 Aug, 2017, 4:33pm by Mrs D 22 comments

Make no bones about it. This is what getting sober is all about. When you quit drinking and commit to spending 100% of your time with a wide open (sober) brain, you are committing to feeling all the feels all the time. What are all the feels? Oh just the charming emotions like sadness, anger, disappointment, […]

My Tipping Point (Guest Post)

Sunday 2 Oct, 2016, 10:34am by Mrs D 21 comments

This guest post comes from beloved community member @inthegarage66 (known by his shortened nickname as @itg). For a while now he has been promising to share the details of his final night of drinking, and explain what the tipping point was that led him to finally make the firm and clear decision that he will never […]

Divine Intervention (Guest Post)

Sunday 18 Sep, 2016, 3:10pm by Mrs D 21 comments

This guest post comes from Katrina Tanirau, a journalist living in Matamata. She reached out to me via Facebook offering to write something for the site and I said ‘go for it’! Little did I know she would deliver a piece as powerful and stirring as this one is. ========== Katrina: Thinking back on it now, […]

On flaws and forgiving ourselves..

Sunday 28 Aug, 2016, 7:06pm by Mrs D 10 comments

By crickey I am flawed. I am so deeply flawed it is not funny. I know I’m a brave and amazing sober warrior (as are many of you!!) but in other areas of my life I try and fail all the time. I promise myself I’m not going to eat sugar and then I furtively eat […]

Authenticity (Guest Post from @suek)

Saturday 20 Aug, 2016, 4:03pm by Mrs D 28 comments

  We are very fortunate that the lovely @suek has written another insightful guest post for us. I always really appreciate her take on matters of identity and truth. Her willingness to explore herself in brutally honest yet gentle and loving ways makes for compelling reading. I know many of you will relate to what she is exploring […]

Blessed relief…

Tuesday 8 Mar, 2016, 4:57pm by Mrs D 11 comments

I was interviewed by a journalist the other day (you can read the article here) and I was describing to her the crazy struggle that can go on in our heads over the course of a day when we are living with addiction. You know how it goes… * Wake up at 3am hungover, guilty and […]

When sober gets old (Guest Post)

Thursday 3 Dec, 2015, 8:27am by Mrs D 15 comments

This guest post comes from my dear friend @suek. She writes brilliantly and is always full of such wisdom and warmth.  I will be publishing another post from her soon that follows on from this one – offering practical suggestions on how to approach life after sobriety. ================ @suek. So you’ve made the switch to sober. That’s brave and […]

A year ago today (Guest Post)

Monday 22 Jun, 2015, 12:20pm by Mrs D 18 comments

Today marks one year since my big TV ‘outing’ as an alcoholic in recovery. It was a huge scary deal and I’ve just published a post about the entire process over on my Mrs D Is Going Without blog – here.  Before filming began on the programme the producer asked me if I had a blog reader willing […]

The 24-hour cycle of a boozer

Wednesday 21 Jan, 2015, 12:11pm by Mrs D 16 comments

Member @maryisnotafairy posted this in the Sober Toolbox recently and I thought it was bloody brilliant so am featuring it here as a blog post. At the time of posting she said “this really took me back to the last year of my drinking. My best tool is thinking through the drink. I never want to return to […]