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‘socialising’ tag

Doing a Party Sober

Thursday 1 Feb, 2018, 12:00pm by Mrs D 16 comments

I’ve been to quite a few parties as a sober person now and generally I don’t have a problem with them (unless I’m just totally not in the mood or it’s really not my scene). I’ve gotten pretty good at working inside my brain to lift my mood so that I can have a good […]

Silly Season Survival Guide

Wednesday 29 Nov, 2017, 1:43am by Mrs D 14 comments

This is a really tricky time of year for us sober people. There are numerous parties and gatherings to navigate. There are family pressures. There are a million bullshit marketing messages being thrust at us. Everywhere we turn it seems we are being slapped in the face with the fact that we are DIFFERENT and […]

Navigating Social Spaces Sober (Guest Post)

Saturday 2 Sep, 2017, 10:05am by Mrs D 11 comments

This guest post comes from member @emjaycee. A writer friend of mine (and sober hero!) based in Christchurch. ============ Once you have made the decision to quit alcohol, the practicalities of navigating the social spaces of your life loom into view. In late May, 2016, when I was considering total abstinence, my main worry was […]

Let’s Be Clear (Guest Post)

Sunday 5 Feb, 2017, 4:00pm by Mrs D 18 comments

This guest post comes from the always awesome Sue Kerr (@suek). Enjoy! ========== When you first quit drinking, you feel very, very weird. That thing you just quit was a huge part of your life, and without it you’ll likely feel really uncomfortable, freakish even. It takes a while to get comfortable living without booze. […]

Do I miss drinking?

Sunday 29 Jan, 2017, 9:46pm by Mrs D 27 comments

Someone asked me the other day if I missed drinking. I almost giggled at the absurdity of the question but managed to stop myself from doing so – thankfully, as that would have been rude. Instead I simply said ‘No I don’t miss it.” I’m sure I sounded quite casual about it, but believe me […]

Sober in Showbiz (Guest Post)

Saturday 14 Jan, 2017, 7:26pm by Mrs D 7 comments

This guest post comes from the New Zealand author J.A. Wright (she was raised in the Pacific Northwest and moved to New Zealand in 1990). She is the founder and director of the World Buskers Festival (1994 to 2014) and the New Zealand Jazz and Blues Festival (1997 to now). With more than 30 years […]

Christmas Is Coming (Guest Post)

Sunday 18 Dec, 2016, 8:49am by Mrs D 9 comments

This guest post comes from the lovely and very wise Suzy Morrison who works in the addiction sector and has many years in recovery herself. She shared her ‘Sober Story’ with us here, and participated in an ‘Ask An Expert’ post which you can see here. This is her very pertinent take on how to survive the upcoming […]

This is the holiday season you become a Winner (Guest Post)

Saturday 10 Dec, 2016, 4:51pm by Mrs D 16 comments

A lot of our community are struggling this Silly Season feeling confronted by all the boozy get-togethers and family gatherings that are happening around them. Our beloved member @prudence had some fantastic wise words to offer in the Members Feed the other day and I thought them worth sharing here in a blog post. Enjoy.  ============ […]

You are a boring sober loser…

Sunday 6 Nov, 2016, 5:28pm by Mrs D 7 comments

That’s our biggest fear when we quit drinking isn’t it … that other people are going to think we are boring sober losers who are to be avoided at all costs. Or maybe the truth is we are the ones doing the accusing, considering ourselves to be boring sober losers. It was certainly my biggest […]

Sober Holidays Are The Best!

Sunday 23 Oct, 2016, 5:59pm by Mrs D 7 comments

Sober holidays are the best!!! Here’s why.. 1) Saving money. Booze is EXPENSIVE! And at the rate I used to drink it you could add hundreds to my holiday bill. But now I don’t drink I have more to spend on lovely indulgences for myself like massages (yes!), activities (that I’m more inclined to do […]