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‘socialising’ tag

A 21st Party (Guest post from @morgan)

Sunday 4 Sep, 2016, 7:55am by Mrs D 17 comments

Lovely long-time member @morgan travelled to Wellington recently to attend a 21st party. She stayed at her elderly Aunt’s house and visited with Living Sober members who live here. She was also supposed to be meeting up with  her man this weekend, but he cancelled at the last minute due to work commitments. As a result the weekend could have turned […]

Cutting Edge Addiction Conference..

Friday 15 Jul, 2016, 3:10pm by Mrs D 3 comments

The Cutting Edge addiction conference is fast approaching! This is a 3-day event run by Dapaanz who are New Zealand’s professional association for people working in addiction treatment. I went last year and found it incredibly fascinating and enriching. This year it is taking place on September 7-10 in Rotorua. The theme is ‘Celebrating Transformation’ with a […]

My Sober Skin

Monday 14 Mar, 2016, 4:10pm by Mrs D 5 comments

I think a big part of the reason I’ve never picked up a drink since I made the decision to stop doing that is that from Day One I put on my Sober Skin and left it there. From Day One I said to myself ‘I am now a non-drinker’ … and with that I […]

Growing up Kiwi (guest post)

Sunday 28 Feb, 2016, 1:07pm by Mrs D 12 comments

This guest post comes from my lovely friend Ali Ikram – a man who grew up in New Zealand drinking alcohol regularly, until one day he realised he had a choice in the matter…. ======== We don’t really do rites of passage in New Zealand society. On Pentecost Island in Vanuatu, manhood is only attained […]

Looks plain stupid!

Sunday 24 Jan, 2016, 6:06pm by Mrs D 8 comments

I just celebrated my 1600th sober day! I probably wouldn’t bother counting days at this stage of my sobriety but the day counter widget on this site makes it super easy. Celebrating milestones is fun! For this nice round number I made a date loaf especially so that I could cut it lengthways and write ’1600′ on it with […]

Things Change (guest post)

Saturday 16 Jan, 2016, 1:24pm by Mrs D 14 comments

This guest post was written by the wise and [email protected] after she hosted some friends for dinner recently.  ============ @suek: The talk starts as I’m tossing the salad. Friend: Are you still not drinking Sue? Me: Nope. (Hubs chirps in and says “It’s been three years now!” That made me smile.) Friend: THREE YEARS??!!!! Me: Yup. Friend: […]

Learning to understand ourselves

Monday 4 Jan, 2016, 3:52pm by Mrs D 7 comments

I knew after I stopped drinking that in order to be genuinely at peace with being sober I needed to retrain my own brain so that I wouldn’t keep bombarding myself with woe-is-me thoughts about booze. I knew I couldn’t control the world around me but I could control my own thinking and that really needed to change. […]

A powerful observation

Sunday 27 Dec, 2015, 8:41am by Mrs D 12 comments

I go on a lot about brain-retraining in early sobriety… how we need to really embrace the reality of a sober life by actively working inside our grey-matter to turn our thinking around. How we need to actively challenge every hard-wired belief that tells us booze is the magical ingredient that makes occasions special. It took […]

Sober First Aid Kit (repost)

Saturday 19 Dec, 2015, 11:16am by Mrs D 7 comments

Further to my ‘Silly Season Survival Guide‘ reposted last week, here is @suek’s brilliant expansion of the ‘Sober First Aid’ concept. I totally love this idea – have done since we first featured this post last year. I have put a kit together numerous times over the past year and will be doing one for […]

Sobermass and New Cheers (Reposted Guest Post)

Monday 14 Dec, 2015, 8:55am by Mrs D 9 comments

Some more  Christmas and New Years inspiration for you – this post comes from @_jjw_, a smart and lovely kiwi dude, and brave sober warrior. ===================== @_jjw_:This is my fourth sober Christmas. While many of us people who gave up drinking wait until after Christmas and New Years to put down the bottle, I launched my sobriety a […]