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‘writing’ tag

Write your way sober…

Thursday 24 May, 2018, 1:27am by Mrs D 18 comments

One of the things that is so hard about being addicted to alcohol is that much of the angst is internal. By the time I neared the end of my drinking days I had a lot of twisted beliefs, secret compulsions and miserable thoughts swirling around in my head. My thoughts were a noisy, angst-ridden jumble…thrown into […]

Why Does Online Recovery Work? (Guest Post)

Tuesday 24 Oct, 2017, 2:25pm by Mrs D 44 comments

This guest post comes from Thomas Mabon a.k.a @behind_the_sofa who also volunteers as a Community Moderator on this site. ============ For some people when they are first embarking on getting sober the prospect of sitting in a room full of strangers face to face spilling your guts while it’s all still so raw and painful […]

Are you in the Members Feed?

Sunday 12 Feb, 2017, 5:32pm by Mrs D 95 comments

I have a sneaky suspicion that there are people who visit Living Sober to read blogs and look in the Sober Toolbox.. but don’t ever go inside the Community Area. A few people have commented lately that they’ve been coming to the site for a while but have only just discovered the Members Feed – and […]

Sober Bus or Booze Bus (Guest Post)

Sunday 3 Jul, 2016, 10:08am by Mrs D 15 comments

This wonderful poem was written by our very clever long-time member @pearl. With her permission I am reprinting it here. ========= Sober Bus or Booze Bus. Which bus is going your way? The choice is yours each and everyday Which bus ticket will you get? A trip to hell you’d rather forget? Or a trip […]

A Powerful Eulogy (Guest Post)

Sunday 14 Feb, 2016, 8:36am by Mrs D 10 comments

A lovely man who worked in the addiction sector here in New Zealand passed away recently. His name was David Lyndon Brown and he will be very much missed both by those who worked alongside him in the recovery community and those he helped. David’s good friend Suzy Morrison wrote this powerful eulogy for David and delivered […]

Degrees of Engagement

Sunday 16 Aug, 2015, 8:01am by Mrs D 16 comments

Occasionally I get asked to speak at events about my drinking and sobriety story. Strangely it’s not something I get nervous about. Am always happy to share honestly so that normal drinkers can understand what it’s like for those of us who can’t control alcohol, and so that others who might be secretly locked in a […]

I am flying (guest post from @mac007)

Sunday 29 Mar, 2015, 5:53pm by Mrs D 7 comments

One of our wonderful members @mac007 (who I have had the pleasure of meeting twice!) has just travelled away from home to see family and attend a wedding – always a big deal for any sober person. She has been doing so well with her recovery  (is now over 200 days sober!!) and regularly writes […]

Up up into the giant sky (guest post from @suek)

Wednesday 18 Mar, 2015, 6:33am by Mrs D 27 comments

Some of you may remember that my dear friend (and long-time member of this site) @suek has recently been attending a memoir writing course. A couple of weeks ago she emailed me the following piece of writing she did for this course. I was blown away by how powerful and moving it is. She has so brilliantly and movingly expressed the […]

The power of externalizing thoughts (a.k.a get the shit out of your brain)

Sunday 11 Jan, 2015, 4:12pm by Mrs D 30 comments

One of the most powerful aspects of blogging for me was externalising my thoughts – getting my dark drinking secrets and twisted boozy beliefs out of my brain and onto the page (or screen in this case). When I first planned on getting sober I decided to write to myself daily in order to stay on top of […]

You are Brave and Amazing

Tuesday 26 Aug, 2014, 12:52pm by Mrs D 5 comments

I just got a random lovely email from a dude in Utah – he works at Thistle Creek Ranch a private addiction rehabilitation centre. He wanted to thank me for the ‘quality content’ I provide on my Mrs D blog. What a nice email to get! I often think of all the many thousands of kind & […]