Lovely long term community member @hetiheti wrote in the Members Feed recently as she approached her 700th sober day; “this sober lark is just the best thing ever”. These sorts of statements are always fantastic to hear - especially for new members who are in the early days of giving up. It’s so beneficial when you are grinding your way through the hard early days to hear from longer-term members how good life can get when living alcohol-free becomes more the norm.
@hetiheti then went on to write something that really interested me. She wrote; “On this journey we have found ourselves, but we didn’t even know we were missing til we gave up this booze.”
We didn’t even know we were missing until we gave up the booze.
I absolutely love this sentiment. It sums up brilliantly the overarching feeling I have that only since I stopped drinking alcohol have I truly connected with myself, grown to understand my emotional landscape, properly settled into and appreciated my tiny place in the world, and properly opened my eyes to all the people around me.
And what is still so incredibly fascinating to me is that I had no clue I was missing these things until I discovered them.
How could I possibly know when I had deprived myself of a certain way of living – through my heavy, steady wine habit – all of my adult life.
I didn’t know what I was missing because I’d never experienced it. I’d never experienced any lengthy periods of time not bending my brain with booze. I drank alcohol regularly from the age of 15 to the age of 39.
I’d never dealt with any significant emotional event without turning to alcohol. I just drank all the time. And as a result I constantly interfered with my thinking and my brain chemistry.
Only after I took alcohol away and did a shitload of work to relearning how to live with no brain bending ever … and only after having ground my way through numerous difficult emotional situations without numbing, escaping or avoiding … did I realise what I was missing all along.
That sense of being truly alive. Of being a fully realised, grounded and robust human being. Of being me. Me in all my raw, sober glory.
This is just what I found. What are you missing that you don’t even realise is gone? What will you discover when you start to re-shape your life with no brain bending ever? What wonders have you to learn about and appreciate so greatly?
I’ll let @hetiheti have the last word….
@hetiheti “To those having troubles, please, please, please find the strength to continue. Because eventually it all just falls into place and you too will look back and say wow I did it!!!”
Yes you will.