I’m going to be at the New Zealand Drug Foundation’s 25th anniversary Speaker and Soup series on August 27. The NZDF are one of the agencies backing this site, they do great work to prevent and reduce the immense social, health and economic harms caused by drugs in our communities.
They’ve just emailed me to say ‘it’d be great to have some of the Living Sober community members along on the day’ – whoop! So we could treat it as a bit of a ‘meet-up’ if anyone was in Wellington and keen? I don’t think it’s a very formal event. I’ll talk for a bit … but mostly (hopefully) we can just have a good open discussion about booze & our society and the wonderful growing online recovery movement.
If you’re keen you need to RSVP, there’s room for approx 20 more people apparently. The details are;
When: Wednesday 27 August, 11:30 am – 1:00 pm.
Where: The brand spanking new Drug Foundation office – 4th floor, 265 Wakefield Street, Wellington.
RSVP: Email [email protected] or call 04 801 6303
And now to share something from Stephen Fry that member @daniel posted the other day. @Daniel said “People talk of living this sober life one day at a time. When trying to be sober the bad feelings do pass, but they are real and hard to shift. When it is tough I think these thoughts from Stephen Fry are really helpful, even though it is about depression.”
I’ve found that it’s of some help to think of one’s moods and feelings about the world as being similar to weather:
Here are some obvious things about the weather:
You can’t change it by wishing it away.
If it’s dark and rainy it really is dark and rainy and you can’t alter it.
It might be dark and rainy for two weeks in a row.
It will be sunny one day.
It isn’t under one’s control as to when the sun comes out, but come out it will.
It really is the same with one’s moods, I think. The wrong approach is to believe that they are illusions. They are real. Depression, anxiety, listlessness – these are as real as the weather – AND EQUALLY NOT UNDER ONE’s CONTROL. Not one’s fault.
They will pass: they really will.
In the same way that one has to accept the weather, so one has to accept how one feels about life sometimes.
‘Today’s a crap day,’ is a perfectly realistic approach. It’s all about finding a kind of mental umbrella.
‘Hey-ho, it’s raining inside: it isn’t my fault and there’s nothing I can do about it, but sit it out. But the sun may well come out tomorrow and when it does, I shall take full advantage’