BELIEVE change is possible!

Tuesday 28 Feb, 2017, 12:15pm by Mrs D 8 comments

I can tell you that change is possible. I can tell you my story of how I turned my life around, quit booze and completely re-shaped my identity as a non-drinker. I can share countless stories from other brave sober warriors about how they got themselves out of the booze trap. We can all shout from the rooftops about how getting sober is achievable.

But it won’t happen for you unless you believe it too.

YOU have to believe that change is possible. YOU have to know you can get free. YOU have to trust it’ll be ok.

YOU have to form a mental image in your mind of the person you want to become – sober, calm, together, grounded, real, raw, recovered – and YOU have to have faith that you are going to become that person.

This belief that change is possible has to come from inside you. You are the only person who has the ability to change yourself and as such you are the one who needs to really, truly believe that you can change things around and get alcohol out of your life.

But I get how hard it is to believe this at first. I get how we are so conditioned to believe that life won’t be fun if we never share drinks with friends. I get how we are terrified that being sober all the time will make us a boring loser with nothing to offer. I get how imagining a life with no booze in it is like looking down a dark tunnel.

I get it because I felt that indescribable fear myself. It was utterly terrifying. But thankfully in amongst that fear I had a tiny kernel of belief that I could change myself and I could live alcohol free and things would be ok.

And luckily I decided to nurture that kernel and grow my belief that change was possible.. rather than let the fear dominate and hold me back.

BELIEVE that you can do this. KNOW that thousands – no, millions of people throughout time have gone before you on this path, facing down their fears, growing their hope and belief in change, and eventually reaching a magical place free from addiction. TRUST it will happen for you too.

It will. Just dig deep and believe it will. Prepare yourself for a bumpy ride, because getting sober is hard bloody work at first.. but keep nurturing and growing that believe that change is possible, and stiffling that fear that it can never happen, and slowly – eventually – things will lift up for you.

Believe it. It’s true.

Love, Mrs D xxx


  1. Thanks MrsD for the great encouraging post. And to everyone who may read it…..this is the truth!!! It starts from in you. Great wisdom to apply in all aspects of your life1

  2. This is what has kept me going. Knowing that its a well worn track that others have done before me. And also knowing that if i just stayed on the track it would lead me where i needed to be. I actually visualize this track as a white sandy road (watch too much Safari Live!) with lots of shady trees either side. Sounds corny i know but it works for me. And slowly over a year and and three months, changes are happening. It is uncomfortable in the beginning, but as you go along the track things seem to fall into place. Yes, change is possible. :)

  3. Love this, love it very very much for all sorts of reasons, it is wisdom for life, not just addictions. I really need to believe in myself, to stop listening to all the other voices.
    Thank you

  4. I had faith in these words and at times I had nothing else but these words to hang on to. When would it get easy? I wondered time and time again. I had lots of self pity. It wasn’t fair I thought. But it was fear of going back to how I was, sick, miserable and ashamed. That’s what kept me going too. Fear of going back and hope and belief the only way was forward and that it would get better. I looked at Mrs D’s huge number and couldn’t believe that would EVER be me. But it is :D and I am free and it can be you too.

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